barely getting 11hrs

[Skadiver13]

So ita only gotten even worse. Hea stull congested but seems to be ok for thw most part. The other day he woke coughing at 4:55. I tried to ger him back to sleep but that wasn't happening so we got up. Had a low key morning then I put him down earlier than normal from his set nap. He slepr from 10:45-1:30. Which I'm sure was him catchinf up. Bt was 6:45. Yes a long day but there was no getring in a cn and he doesn't tack. Next day wake up was 5:45. So a normal 11hr night.  Nap was the usual 11:45. Slept till 1:55. Bt was 7:15. Babyaitter put him down late. So a long day but still a good nap. He woke off and on from 2-5:20. SS. But was definetely not a leeping well. I tried to get him back to sleep but no go.

What do I do today? Abandon the set nap set bt again? Nap at 5:45? Do u think discomfort or ot?

[HenaV]

Hi,

I'm sorry I'm probably too late aren't I? For us that kind of waking would be OT? Equally when teething R quite often had EW or wakings around 4am. Its a painful suggestion but t worked for us... set the alarm for around 3/3.30am and do dream meds - that should (if its discomfort0 carry your LO through to a decent WU.

I know its really tough for you and it probably going to sound lame coming from me, but you know that you are doing a really great job - you're holding it all together and managing this sleep issue so well. I know it doesn;t feel like it but honestly if you go back and look at some of your earlier posts you will see how far you have come.

As for OT - with doing set naps and BT you will go through a phase of OT. Its par for the course. If you are determined to hae set tmes then i'm aftrs you are going to have to ride it out. If you think your LO is really OT then opt to do the nap 15m earlier and leave it upcapped and depending on nap lenght you could also do BT 15m earlier.

Re: the EW, I would keep your LO in his bed/cot until its a decent WU time. So decide what that is and the from WU to the 'getting up time' if you cant settle him within a reasonable time then WI/WO and tell him no its not time to get up. And then when it is, be all happy and excited and say "good morning" with as much enthusiasm as you can muster =. It will help you LO breal the association between waking up and getting up iykwim?

HTH x

[Skadiver13]

No it's ok I appreciate you replying. We ended up doing another 10:45am nap because it worked so well last time. Not so great. Something is really bothering him. He woke after 1hr50min but I was able to rock him back to sleep till 12:55. We went for BT of 6:30 but he ended up throwing up at 6:45 from burping and farting at the same time. Was definetely phlemy. Anyway he was up at 4:50AM this morning. I did what you said and tried to settle him in his crib and did that from 4:50-5:35. 3 times he settled and fell asleep but woke 2 min later. It's hard for me to do this becaue my husband works nights so having as creaming child an hr after he's gone to sleep is not really fair. But he wasn't home so I tried.

As for the set naps/set bt this is not new. We've been doing this for a while now and he's been on a great routine for a few months. So the OT isn't frmo switching to set naps/set  BT. I'm not sure what it's from. Thanks for saying how far we've come becuase it sure feels like it but then we have things like this that sets us way back to months ago type behavior. I just don't know how to help him.  He's so grumpy and miserable.

[Skadiver13]

So yesterday was bt 6:45 wake 5:45 nap 11:45-2 tried for bt at 7 pd at 6:45 would not go to sleep tll 7:15. Woke 5:20. Tried wiwo nothing worked. Got him up at 6:10.

He will not go to bed with out me having my hand on him in some way. He has been and ind sleeper for ages. What is going on. He seems to be over his cold mostly. I think the residual congestion is teeth. I gave him meds last night at 1am.

[HenaV]

If he's poorly/teething, he may just need you. I
I'm really not convinced you can fix this until he's well
Again and things are in an even keel