Going Insane! 10 week old sleep wailing

[clc4r]

I know I've posted here a million times in the past week, but sleep continues to get worse! I can't do it anymore! She a 10 week spirited baby girl and the only time she cries is at wind down and pain.

I have established a routine for wind down that I use every time my DD goes down. She used to just fall right to sleep, especially in the morning. However, now as soon as I begin putting her woomble on, or begin sitting, she starts wailing and cries anywhere from 5 mins to 30! I know its because she's associated the wind down signals with "I'm about to be put down." It's like she hates sleep! Is that even possible at 10 weeks? This morning it took 30 mins of off and on crying and an extra 20 to make sure she was out. Last night took 2 hours!!!! I don't leave her, and hold her the entire time she's falling to sleep. Then I put her down in her crib or rock n play once shes in her deep sleep. Rocking, patting, sitting: it all makes her cry louder. The only thing that sometimes works is setting her straight up and bouncing my leg gently. It feels like vibration to her I'm guessing. Why has she progressively gotten worse at settling the past 4 weeks? She's too young for sleep training, but what can a mom do?!?!

I feel like something I'm doing is making her cry more and more. Why else would she have gotten worse since she was little? Has she lost trust that I will be there during bedtime and naps? WHY CANT SHE SETTLE AND WHY AM I MAKING IT A HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE FOR HER???

My husband is no help! He says she's grow out of it, but I don't think this is a "growing out of it" thing. Clearly I've done something to make her dread sleep...

PLEASE help me if you've had similar experiences!

[weaver]

I feel like something I'm doing is making her cry more and more. Why else would she have gotten worse since she was little? Has she lost trust that I will be there during bedtime and naps? WHY CANT SHE SETTLE AND WHY AM I MAKING IT A HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE FOR HER???

Couldn't read and not post hugs.  You poor thing, sounds pretty awful for you!  Be assured she has not lost trust in you, she knows you're there.  If she's crying, it's because she's trying to tell you something.  What could that be?

Haven't read all your other posts.  I assume you've checked out your A times - if you're trying to put a spirited baby down too early, or indeed too late, she will tell you all about it, so that might be what the crying is about. A spirited baby may also have a big persistent streak - so if you keep doing something she doesn't like, she will keep telling you about it.  (Both my LOs have tons of persistence!). Also, spirited babies tend to be very opinionated about how to do wind-down: some of them really hate a long wind-down, some of them hate patting but like having their back rubbed, some of them hate shushing but like humming.  You need to work out what works for her. And then try to adapt it into a routine your comfortable with.

She is still very very young.  It is entirely normal for a baby to change completely (almost) going from 6 to 10 weeks, that's such a huge chunk of her life.  Don't panic.  If she will sleep in a sling, or in a buggy, give yourself a bit of a break and let her nap there once in a while.  You need to look after yourself in order to look after her. 

[clc4r]

Thanks for your reply! Especially about spirited babies. That makes sense. I have a hard time reading her sleep cues. I've tried every time slot from 5 mins after feeding to 1.5 hours after feeding. Guess thats the thing I'm getting wrong. However, she wails no matter what time I put her down now. What were some sleep cues in your little spirited ones? I think I've dug myself a hole with trying to understand her cues...

Hubby's got her in the sling right now, but she still wakes up every 5 minutes. The only thing that works is a car ride. I can't tell you how much gas I've wasted over the past 4 weeks!

THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP! I'll continue working with the A times

[weaver]

Such frequent waking sounds a bit like discomfort.  Has she had any issues with reflux?

If you have a hard time reading sleep cues, then go for clock watching.  And try to stick with one A time for at least three days.  Don't change things too often, she needs time to adjust. Average A for this age is around 1 hr 20.

Baby steps, and remember, seems eternal right now, but it will change soon!

[Lolly]

Could she be in discomfort do you think? What is she like during feeds - are you breastfeeding of formula feeding?

Have a look at this link  - does anything sound familiar Reflux 101 - General reflux information

{{HUGS}} it's hard when you don't know how to help them.

Laura

[clc4r]

She sleeps really well throughout the night. And her spit up is not a constant, every feeding type of thing. I saw the doctor the other day and he did not seemed worried. However, I am going to call him Monday and tell him about the sleep issues.

She feeds really well too. I'm breastfeeding and she doesn't cry afterwards. Literally the only time she cries is when shes hungry and I'm not fast enough, or when she's being put down. We also have her in a rock and play right now so that she can be inclined.