night wakings & nap refusals..9mo sleep regression??

[sonobugsmom]

Four days in a row of no naps unless I'm driving somewhere. Three nights in a row of waking up around midnight and not going back in her crib, it's like she hates it. I'll hold her until she starts drifting and as soon as I bend over, she screams. DH has tried too with same outcome. I have caved the last two nights and brought her in bed with me which is miserable.  She was doing great sleeping before. Two 2hr naps a day and sleeping 10/11hr wo wakings. She has been on the easy method but I don't look at the clock all day and keep track. She has been hitting developmental milestones too. Crawling, standing, waving...

[jessmum46]

So what was her routine before all this went haywire?  Could you post with WU, nap and BT?

Is she an independent sleeper usually?

Any teething or illness currently?

I suspect a routine change may be on the cards as 2 2h naps is quite a lot for a 9 month old and tends to make the day a bit too long - which can lead to OT from short nights.  You may need to start cutting down her day sleep a little and bring her day back to more of a 12.5-13h maximum.  Hopefully I can give you a couple of pointers once I know a bit more

[sonobugsmom]

She wakes about 630/7
715 eats (bottle)
735 activity
830(solids sometimes)
9/930sleep
11/1130 wake
12 bottle
1230 activity (usually a walk our something outside if weather is good)
1/130 eat solids
2/230 nap
4/430 eat bottle
445/5 activity
530 eat solids
7/730 bed time

Thank you for any input!!!

[sonobugsmom]

And there is no teething or illness going on. She goes down just fine but when she wakes up, she freaks out if I try to put her back in her crib. I feel like I've tried everything. The only thing that seems to calm her down is being in my arms or in bed with me. I have never Co-slept with her and I really don't want to continue (no offense to Co sleepers) it's forcing DH to sleep on the couch, she moves and twists, turns & kicks me all night long. Last night she woke up at 10, she won and got in bed with me, & woke up at 430 this morning. So she is taking her first nap at 630am...
DH is insisting we do cio tonight while I think pu/pd is the way to go. Just not sure of I need to do anything differently with her age..

[sonobugsmom]

One more thing... Dd had started the past couple days not wanting her bottle when she wakes up, turning away her bottle when I offer. It's not until just before nap time that she wants her bottle. How do I switch her back to feeding after she wakes up instead of before sleep time?  I have a feeling her eating could be the culprit to these bad sleep habits...

[jessmum46]

How are things going?  It sounds to me like the way my LO behaved when teething or with separation anxiety which is really common around this age.  I hope you haven't felt pressured to let her CIO - as you know we don't support that here and if separation anxiety is the issue it will only make things worse by confirming her fears . I hope DH has got on board with PUPD for you.  That said the milk refusal also makes me wonder about teeth/sore mouth for some reason?  I don't know though. You know her best

Routine wise I do think if all other things are excluded then she probably needs a bit more A time and a bit less daytime sleep.  Often by 9 months LOs are needing more like 3h day sleep in total which may be two 1.5h naps or one 2h nap and one shorter one.  Have you tried putting her down for her naps 15 mins later or so to make sure she is definitely tired enough?

This link might help about separation anxiety: Separation Anxiety