9.5hr long nights

[MasynSpencerElliotte]

Oh yikes! Poor girl, lots of healing vibes xx

[AMJ]

Thanks Heidi! We need that

[Jodes112]

Ooh poor babe, hope she heels soon!

Usually long, calm nw's for us are UT!! Im not saying that your dd is UT though. I think shes definatley a one off lol. No other suggestions really jusylt to stick at the set nap & bt and hope she finally gets it a some point. Have you ever noticed she sleeps longer at night if that nap is shorter eg an hour?

Xx

[AMJ]

Lol I know she is different!

We had few weeks of 11-11.5hr nights wen her nap was 1hr45-2hrs long but its not happening now. Why can't she self regulate!? Who knows

[AMJ]

hello again . we are still in a very similar situation.

DD is almost 19 months and is still having 9.5-10hrs of sleep at night. She doesn't wake up during the night anymore like she used to but is having few crying spells but resettles in few minutes on her own. Her nap is anywhere between 2hrs and 2.5hrs (rarely 2hrs45-3hrs).

We are still on the same set times

Wu anywhere between 5:40-6:15am, very rarely past 6:15.
Nap at 12:30 in the crib and asleep by 12:40pm
WU anywhere between 2:40-3:00 usually. Sometime later. I tried waking her at 2hrs15m of sleep but it doesn't change the nights much. Maybe I need to do it more consistently or for longer stretch of time or wake her at 2hrs of sleep instead of 2hrs15m?
Crib at 7:20/7:30 pm. Asleep by 7:50/8:00pm.

 I also tried moving her nap later thinking that maybe the too early nap might cause the EWU. I laid her in the crib at 12;40 but it didn't seems to change the nights by much either? maybe she needs more time for this to work? Once I laid her in the crib at 12:45 and she was so OT from EWU that it took her 1hr to fall asleep.

giving her an EBT will help only temporally, from the previous experience, and then she will go back to the same patter but it will shift our day earlier. 

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Or even any positive words. Just feel like a failure since I still can't get it right.
thanks

[MasynSpencerElliotte]

The only thing I can think of is to cap the nap and see if that results in a better/longer night. Two of my kids did better on less naps and more night sleep.

[AMJ]

Hi Heidi.

did it take a while to "start working" for your kids? how long should i try it for? do you think I should try 2hrs?

today she had a 2hr nap but was just exhausted by BT.

[jessmum46]

I agree too much daytime sleep, we had to limit to 2h max at about 18 months and that was with three days a week at daycare where DD would do a max of about 1h15.  So really on average we were on closer to 1h30-45 this age.

When you first cap her nap she will be exhausted by BT, that's pretty normal as at the moment she is using a longer nap to make up what she misses at night.  You kind of need to push through that though to shift the sleep to her night instead of her day.  I would definitely cut to 2h and stick with it a week, then re-evaluate.  You may need to cap further as overall I don't think she's HSN from all the troubles you've had getting a settled routine?

[AMJ]

She is definitely not a HSN lol. 

thanks for the advice. I will try it for a week. I guess I should still keep it at 12;30?

[MasynSpencerElliotte]

Yk I don't remember how it all panned out with DD1 (heck can't have been too bad if I had two more kids ) but with DD3 I would say a few days went by before it really made a difference. I agree with pushing through the initial ot...it is a vicious cycle otherwise if you don't!

[AMJ]

Sounds good ladies I'll give it a try for longer. Fingers crossed.

Thanks

[jessmum46]

Good luck x