16 mo. old is pesky during nursing

[momminluv]

My 16 mo. old is really being pesky when we nurse.  My biggest complaint is when she jabs her thumb into my navel.  I hate the feeling SO much.  And her nails are sharp.  I've tried moving her arm and saying stop -- I've even made it a point to have her kitty blanket between us but, she gets angry.  She also sratches my side and gets angry when I don't have a letdown fast enough.  UGH.  I'm really tired of nursing her.  It's not comfortable anymore.  Any advice?

[shelliz]

I don't have much advice b/c my lo is only 6 months, but she puts her hand on my chest and scratches over and over and over. Even when her nails are short she kinda pinches instead. The only time she doesn't do it is when I am feeding her right before bed or in the middle of the night. Such a small thing...but it is kinda annoying at times (and uncomfortable!)

 

[Samuel's mum]

You could try having a basket of special objects she can hold and play with during nursing. You can also buy special nursing necklaces that work for some people. I think at 16 months it's not unreasonable to say 'no mummy doesn't like that. gently please' and model gently stroking. I would personally stop the session if you are really uncomfortable and repeat 'gently please' and then try and put her back on. If she gets 'angry' I would calmly and softly take her off again. I know it sounds easier than it will be in practise but I think soon she would get the message. I don't think you should just put up with it. The nursing relationship is a great opportunity to teach about intimacy and kindness and respecting others. However I think distraction is your best bet. I've even read a few books while nursing or she can hold a board book while you read it.