today i took dd2 to visit the health nurse for check up, as i have been have real problems putting her down for a nap in the mornings i ask her about it, she said that dd2 could stay up for 75/90 minutes, that seems way long,
the mornings are not going to good for us at the moment and i am really feeling the pressure, i have so many questions
here is our day yesterday lets include the evening and night before as i feel it is relevent, maybe
8pm dd woke, bf, nappy, straight back to sleep
10.30 dd woke, bf, no nappy, straight back to sleep
1.40 dd woke, bf, nappy, straight back to sleep
4.30 dd woke, bf, no nappy, straight back to sleep
7.15 dd woke, bf, no nappy, straight back to sleep - not sure i should have done this, i was so tired
8.40 dd woke, bf, nappy, activity, tried to put dd down at 9.15, no luck, 10.10 big poo, bf again
, still no luck 12.00 bf again
, straight to sleep
3.00 dd woke, bf, nappy, straight back to sleeps
6.00 dd woke, bf, nappy, straight back to sleep
8.30 dd woke, bf, nappy, tried to put her down at 9ish, shh/pat, pu ...... asleep by 10.30 ish
11.10 dd woke, bf, no nappy, straight back to sleep
2.50 dd woke, bf, nappy, straight back to sleep
5.35 dd woke, bf, no nappy, straight back to sleep
7.55 dd woke, bf, nappy, tried to put dd back down at 8.30ish, heaps of shh/pat, pu, tears from me, feed again at 10.15 into pram as she had to go for check up, straight to sleep, has been in the pram since then with one waking by nurse, shh/pat in arms, sleep, it is nearly 3 hours so i will wake her
i may be doing the 4s wrong or the shh/pat, i feel very uncomfortable with the shh/pat, when i am holding dd after screaming ... she calms down say 7/8 minutes and then starts to close her eyes, 1. is this the point i put her in the cot? 2. do i start shh/pat straight away? or wait until she needs me? do i let her cry at all? what i mean give her time to settle herself? 3. when do i stop shh/pat? when she is quiet? or when her eyes close? or minutes after her eyes close?
so sorry about all these question, so exhausted already, feeling so alone with this, so i have to do shh/pat forever, like until she is 6-9 months old, or could she learn this sleep quicker, dd1 never had many sleep issues, this is all so new to me, and by the way when i try to do shh/pat i have to wrap dd many many time, she is kicking her legs around also
thanks so very much if you got to the end of this