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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #15 on: August 29, 2006, 01:10:16 am »
hi marian and aidansmom1!

i have a little baby as well.  at birth lindsay was 6 lbs 7 oz, at five months she was 12.5 lbs, and at six months she is only 13 lbs 2 oz.  my doc says she is FINE!!!  she is just a dainty little girl.

aidansmom1, could it be that your LO isn't very hungry at each feed because there are so many and so he isn't getting to the fattier hindmilk because he's not hungry enough between feeds???  what do his poops look like?  remember, greenish poops are usually a sign of too much foremilk (lactose) and not enough hindmilk.

lindsay has 5 feeds a day, including the df at 11 pm.  at five months she would sleep through to 5 or 6 am, and now she is usually still asleep at 7 am.  the fact that you lo wakes at 3 am makes me think that the hindmilk isn't getting in there ... ?

just food for thought (pardon the pun).  ;)


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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #16 on: August 29, 2006, 03:33:40 am »
Hi Lindaysmum! 

You have made a good point about him not getting enough hind milk, and I just made that discovery for myself over the last few days too.  I realized that he is only snacking and not doing either one of us a favor by me feeding him so frequently.  So, in spite of my paranoia and best efforts to make things better, I have only made them worse.

His poops have been a slight shade of green, and I didn't know/realize that too much foremilk did that.  Oops.  Tomorrow is a new day with a new plan for the routine.  Since we have just moved in the last week and a half and on top of our mounting feeding issues, he has been a bear about going to sleep.  I have decided to re-introduce 4 hr EASY for him and we'll have to use the PI/PD to get it done for the naps.  If we can get him back to his own measures for falling asleep, I will be soooo happy.  It is really rough on both of us at nap/sleep time.  He has taken over an hr to get down increasingly more often, and getting worse.  This is just too hard for him and me too.

Thanks for the great advice.  It is good to know that I am not the only one with a smaller LO.  He is just long and skinny.  They made such a big stink at the 4 mo appt that I really started to think I was starving him.  Although in my mind, I kept thinking that he has enough wet/poopy diapers.  Now I know that he does need to be watched for his weight, but he is perfectly fine. 
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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #17 on: August 31, 2006, 01:23:53 am »
((((HUGS)))))  ya know, it is sooo hard being a new mother and trying to do everything "right."  i had a really hard time getting breastfeeding going and i remember crying to my husband about what a failure i was as a mother and that i was starving my child.  :'(  however, everything worked out as i stayed with it and asked questions, etc.

it sounds like you have alot going on in you life right now, so give yourself a break, and a pat on the back for being a great mother!   ;D 

you'll have to let me know how much he weighs at six months.  just as an fyi, lindsay had her smallest weight gain between five and six months, for some reason.

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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #18 on: September 08, 2006, 17:05:47 pm »
Hi!

Thought I'd give you a quick update.  We are doing much, much better.  We have gone onto a fairly rigid 4 hr EASY routine and I have seen a huge difference.  Since the naps were also an issue, I tried shh/pat and found that wasn't working, so we went to PU/PD.  It is slow, but working and I have been on the nap/Pu/PD board to find that I should extend his awake time a bit more too. 

Either way, he is finally sleeping through most of the night AND starting to be able to fall asleep on his own.  Things are getting better and I appreciate your help.   

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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #19 on: September 11, 2006, 11:39:27 am »
lena, that's awesome!!!!!  i am so pleased for you.   ;D ;D ;D

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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #20 on: September 11, 2006, 11:46:01 am »
i forgot to add that you might consider joining a birth club for the march / april babies.  it's too bad that your LO is born in March (or that mine is born in Feb!!!) as they are almost the same age, but born in different months.  anyway, the birth clubs, if you don't already know, are part of  the EASY forum.

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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #21 on: September 11, 2006, 12:58:58 pm »
Hey, Just thought i'd try and offer some reassurance about slow weight gain. My ds has put on little weight over the past few months and had even lost some one month! (He's 8 1/2 months ) I have been tearing my hair out, trying to shovel food into him and worrying myself silly about breastfeeding, and how I couldn't meet his needs and whether to stop. I had convinced myself that every time he cried he MUST be hungry, however he is much happier on a routine of 4 hourly bf and I just give him as much solid food as he'll take, he's much happier.

I have a very active little boy that was rolling early just like your lo. I have spoken to the health visitor and a breastfeeding consultant from the NCT (we don't routinely see a doctor in the uk) and they have all reached the same conclusion, in light of the fact that he is perfectly healthy, developmentally fine and very active that the only problem is that he keeps being weighed and hence the worrying begins. The plan now is not to weigh him unless I feel he is unwell!!

Although it's a bit early to do this in your case, just to let you know that those charts can cause more worry than good sometimes, particularly with bf babies!! A baby that is undernourished is unlikely to be so alert, meeting (and exceeding) milestones and would not have the energy to do all that rolling!!!!!

I'd say keep up the good (bf) work!!

(My mum also told me my brother was exactly the same as my ds and he is now a very stocky 6 ft lad)

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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #22 on: September 11, 2006, 23:53:06 pm »
amen, sister! ;)

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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #23 on: September 12, 2006, 01:52:23 am »
Thank you Francyne and Rachsenior for your kind words of support.  It is refreshing to know that I am not alone in having felt inadequate in BF due to weight issues.  I am just amazed at the medical community and the pressure that is placed to BF.  And then when you have a child who is not chunky, they give so much grief over it.  I am glad that I did not give up on BF though, even though I was close because of the weight issues. 

Our boy is doing really well though.  The naps are still a bit challenging, but it has definitely been much, much better than it was.  He is going to bed without much argument, so that makes up for the naps a bit.

I will definitely be looking at the birth clubs.  If my ds wasn't late, we'd be on the same board too! 

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Re: Won't go to sleep without breast feeding
« Reply #24 on: September 12, 2006, 06:22:56 am »
Ah Lena, we weren't meant to be part of the same birth club as my LO was early (her due date was in MArch)!