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Offline Simonefay

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Biting and Weaning
« on: September 09, 2006, 12:17:37 pm »
Hello first time here! Thank you in advance for any help or advice.  My DD is 7 months old and has been biting me when I nurse her. I noticed while she was teething she would "bite" down with her gums, that didn't really hurt at all.  Her tooth finally popped up and she bite down one morning so hard that I started to bleed. Needless to say, I really wanted to be done with breastfeeding. I wasn't ready for it however, as I was determined to go as long as I could. So I continued to nurse her on the other breast and supplemented when it was time go on the "bleeding" side until my nipple healed up. Well she has bite me two more times and now I think I'm really done. I'm sad by it but the pain is so overwhelming. If there is some way to get her stop I would really like to know how. Whenever she's done it I've told her "no"  and "ouchy" and "mommy doesn't like that" all in a firm voice but she doesn't seem to get it. Is she too young to understand?

Also, since I've decided to wean I can't seem to bring down my milk supply. For the last two months I struggled with keeping it up and now that I'm weaning I have more than I've ever had. It's like the first time your milk comes after having a baby. I've had couple of clogged ducts-very painful. I've pumped but not enough so the breast fills (like the books says to) but for some reason they both still fill up.

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much!

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Re: Biting and Weaning
« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2006, 16:22:58 pm »
If you really want to keep breastfeeding, I would try to work around the biting . . . but I know it is hard!  My 8 mo. old has bitten me several times, although not hard enought to cause bleeding!  Ouch!  :'(

I read some where that, although it is counterintuitive, the best reaction is a bite is to pull baby tightly into your breast--rather than pushing them away.  Pulling them in will force them to open their mouths so they can breathe, while pushing them away will tend to make them clamp down harder. 

Have you noticed a pattern to when she is biting?   My lo is very distractable, so he would get distracted and try to get down and go play; I didn't think he had eaten long enough to make it a full feed, so I would try to latch him back and that is when he would bite me.  I realized that he had become a much more efficient feeder and really was done and, even if he wasn't, he would come back later . . . better than risking a bite.  Regardless, if he does bite me, I say no very loudly and firmly, end the feed, and walk away from him, which upsets him.  That seemed to take care of it, but I know that every baby is different.

My mother says that the first time I bit her when I was a baby she popped me on the cheek and I never did it again--same with my little brother.  Normally I don't advocate anything like that . . . but it might be worthwhile if it would make an impression and keep her bf.  I did read somewhere that for a sensitive baby popping them on the cheek can make them scared to nurse.

I don't have any weaning advice as I'm a first time bf and haven't reached that stage yet.

Good luck, sorry this is so tough!

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Re: Biting and Weaning
« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2006, 16:35:58 pm »
Here's some tips on the biting issue
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/older-baby/biting.html
My LO caught me by surprise around 9 mo and I yelped with pain (yes, there was blood). It scared him so much....I felt HORRIBLE!  :o But....he hasn't even tried it again. He had playfully bit/tugged a few times before- and I could always predict by a certain sparkle in his eyes.
If you are weaning try here-
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/index.html
Good luck. HTH
Jeni
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Re: Biting and Weaning
« Reply #3 on: September 11, 2006, 03:15:34 am »
You can try keeping your finger by the edge of their mouth, and when they go to clamp down, stick your finger in. My ds used to "bite" or clamp towards the end of a feed, so I would just stop nursing him. It is a phase and usually short lived, but certainly you don't need to end your nursing relationship over it! A little Tylenol or Motrin before feeds (or something for teething, cool towel, teething tablets, etc) can help so you don't get treated like a teething toy. Best of luck!
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Re: Biting and Weaning
« Reply #4 on: September 11, 2006, 03:21:58 am »
My DD also liked to clamp down when her teeth were coming in. Now that she has two I have been doing the 'pull in to breast'. The 1st few times I did it she gave me the oddest look but I think she is starting to catch on. It really is the fastest way to get them to unclamp and it also doesn't startle them (I have heard if they are startled badly they might be scared to bf again). You could also try Oragel right before you start the feed if you want something that has immediate relief.

Good luck and speedy recovery from the bite.

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Re: Biting and Weaning
« Reply #5 on: September 11, 2006, 15:48:14 pm »
Thanks everyone for all your help! I will definitely try all these techniques and hope that one of them will work. The good thing about all of this is that my milk supply has gone down, something that's happened in the past.

Thanks again!

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Re: Biting and Weaning
« Reply #6 on: September 11, 2006, 19:40:28 pm »
From my own personal experience, I found that bitng got worse whenever I applied OrajeL, as I think his gums were numb and he was biting hard "to feel" something. Hope that makes sense. He never bit deliberatley once he had teeth, but there have been moments when something would distract him and he would adjust his latch and ....but nothing like what you have described. I feel for you.