If you are desperate to let your lo "cry it out"...read this first

[tullyma]

Sorry, but I'm going to be a party pooper here. I'm certainly not in the "CIO club", but I do let my DD cry for short periods (5 mins at most) before I see to her, as long as I KNOW she is well and isn't sick or hurting.

It might not be the case with all LOs, but I can tell by my DD's cry whether she is sick/vomiting or just crying to self-soothe. A good vomit is certainly distressing, so I can understand your concern. My DD definitely has a different cry if she is sick (more high-pitched and urgent) and I really can tell in her cry if she has vomited.

I can't understand the logic in letting children cry indefinitely without checking on them, but from experience I know that letting them cry for short periods of time (before the cry escalates) and going in to reassure them at regular intervals certainly does no harm. This mentality has kept me and DH sane for the past 2 years, and has given us all excellent undisturbed nights of sleep.

[Samuel's mum]

Just a reminder we don't debate CIO on these boards 
I'm going to ask for this sticky to be locked by another moderator.

[Site Admin Team]

Thank you all for sharing your stories and experiences.

When posts or possible debates such as this came up, Tracy asked us to remind posters that she always cautions against any form of crying it out/controlled crying because she feels it breaks trust between parent and child. She said many times that there is a gentler solution for every situation, we just have to find it.

We understand that all parents feel differently about this issue, but CIO is not an issue that we permit discussion on within this website, when CIO debates spring up they invariably get heated, and feelings get hurt. 

This thread has served it's original intentions, and the decision has been made to lock this thread before any further debate can occur.


Thank you for your understanding.

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