when wakes up at 45- what do we do?

[nicolas]

I'm part of the 45 minute club. and also new to easy (about 2 weeks).  He takes long naps if beside someone's body, but since we're sticking to the crib these days, it's another story.  I will start to try the extending nap techniques, but when they don't work and he is very awake, do I do quiet wake time until the next feeding?  Someone suggested that I shhpat until the end of the nap time, but i wasn't sure if that's only for when he wakes up oddly early- like 15 minutes into the nap, or if it also goes for when he wakes up at 45 minutes.  When it takes 30 minutes to get him asleep, it feels like i am bent over his crib all day long.

any suggestions?

take care, liana

[tara72]

I am definitely no expert, but am struggling with a 45-minute napper also. I tried putting her back to sleep using shh/pat and also tried comforting her back to sleep. but after almost a week of trying, it never worked and I just couldn't do it anymore. she wakes up from her naps very happy and content. I personally feed her when she wakes up, so she eats almost every 2 hours, and at 12-weeks-old, I'm not very happy about that. but I'm not sure how to change that, since she expects food now when she wakes up.

anyway, I'm trying to do wake to sleep with her now, but am not having any success yet. have you read about it? https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=64168.0 I am going to be persistent though for another few days and hope that she will sleep for more than 45 minutes soon!

sorry I'm not more help, but keep us posted.

 --tara

[nicolas]

Well my wake to sleep was only half successful. he awoke, but didn't do any sleeping. maybe i was too late, so he was ready to wake anyways.
I used to feed him when he woke, but lately I have been able to distract him long enough until the next feeding. Although, it doesn't always work, this morning he cried for 20 minutes on and off, and it was that furious scream cry.  After trying to see if anything else was wrong, I decided he was simply hungry so i fed him eventhough it was only 2and half hours since the last feeding.
Does she cry for food when she wakes?  Have you tried stalling her?
At least we're not alone in the struggle.  Also, have you tried making her wake time before the nap longer to fill time between feedings?
-liana

[tara72]

Does she cry for food when she wakes?  Have you tried stalling her?
At least we're not alone in the struggle.  Also, have you tried making her wake time before the nap longer to fill time between feedings?

yes, it's nice to know I'm not alone. and it's nice to have a place to get good advice from so many knowledgeable moms on this board! (I'm not one of them, but I sure appreciate the advice and experiences of others!)

she wakes up happy and content. but I think because I've made it a habit to feed her as soon as she wakes, that is what she expects. I tried stalling her once or twice (not really hard, mind you), but then she wanted to be fed. so I did. from reading another thread that I started (which you also are contributing to), I may try to extend the time between feedings somehow. the hard part is wondering if it will work or not.  but I may try a EASAS pattern with a short activity time in the middle.

and we are extending her A time to the recommended awake time, which is 1.25-1.5 hours for her age group. before, we'd start getting her ready to sleep at one hour. but now we shoot for about 1.5 hours. not much effect yet.

so thank you for your thoughts, Liana. I may try to distract my LO like you have been able to do with yours lately (how nice!). we'll see if I can extend that time between feedings at all.

 --tara

[nicolas]

argh! we just had a night put down from hell. it took us 40 minutes of screaming crying, we pick him up after 5 minutes and walk him until he's calm. but it didn't work, and he didn't seem to be tiring himself out. so we finally gave him the boob just to calm down, and then putting him in the crib.. when it hit the hour mark we gave up and bfed him to sleep in the big bed in his room and then snuck out.. i know caving in is not recommended, but seriously, is it really better for him to be upset for another 30 minutes, just to avoid using props??

sorry that was off subject, but i had tto vent.  how old is your baby?  i actually didn't realize the awake time was 1.25-1.5. does that start at 3 months?  I wonder if that will help my going down for naps process.

let me know how your distractions work.
p.s. moving from snacking to 3 hour feedings took me about 2 weeks.  and i did it gradually, a few days on 2 hours, then 2.5 hours etc... so i think you'll get there. just don't feel rushed about it.

thanks for your thoughts as well.
i hope there is a light at the end of  the tunnel.
-liana