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Seperation anxiety has started need advise please
« on: September 12, 2007, 09:43:42 am »
Hi there

My lo is coming up to 8 months old and has started to cry when I leave the room, and Im finding hes wingeing a lot in the day which is hard going to say the least.  He has been teething and just cut another tooth so maybe the wingeing solely down to that althought its threw the gum and hes still wingeing so not show if partly due to the seperation anxiety issue, has any others lo been like this??

Im following Traceys advice by not picking him up, going back and to out of the room, distraction etc and no it will past, does anyone know how long it usually lasts for or is that an unanswerable question.  Also any tips on how to keep him amused all day without me picking him up all the time to help with the constant wingeing too.  Obviously I do spend time with his aswell and dont want him just to sit there all by himself all day but I want him to learn to be independant and play happily by himself without mum at times.

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Re: Seperation anxiety has started need advise please
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2007, 11:18:05 am »
Hiya Nenee  :)

There are lots of tips here on dealing with SA.

https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=84719.0

HTH, please post back if you have more questions  :-*
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Re: Seperation anxiety has started need advise please
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2007, 22:04:19 pm »
Nenee,

Please empty your inbox as I can't pm you. I'll try pm'ing you tomorrow, failing that I'll email you  :-*

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Re: Seperation anxiety has started need advise please
« Reply #3 on: September 12, 2007, 23:53:38 pm »
From my experience with different parenting for #1 & #2, if you give them what they need they learn to trust they will get it & wait.
What I did with #2 was sit down next to him & play & probably for 2-3 weeks not much got done, but then things got better & he let me go & do things.
By keeping coming & going they never quite work out what does actually work & so just keep using the big whinging & crying to try & work out how they can get their need satisfied.
dc1 July 03, dc2 May 05