because of me,,,,,,

[kerry,(kaceys mum)]

my dd (five months exactly) is typically an angle baby in my eyes,, she is just so good natured, wakes up  with a smile on her face that stays there all day long,,,,,, 

however, dd typically wakes once a night,, (not bad at all ), it only takes two min to get her back down to sleep so i have not seen this as a huge problem,, but heres the problem,, she has to come to bed with me

well, not sure if this is the case,, heres what  happens,, dd wakes,, i go into her room,, not even sure if I'm awake,, take her out of her cot,, go along the hall,, jump into my bed with dd, bf her, , and the two of us are asleep within a minute.

as i said,, its me who's the problem not dd,, the thing is,, she stayed with my mum for the first time,, woke around four,, mum fed her,, but dd couldn't go to sleep,, looking for me i GE's,, so she was up from four till i got her in the morning

two weeks later i she did the same with my mum,, so obviously i don't let her stay out again,,

i know its me who has to change,, but please show the way

[Layla]

Hey Kerry,

If this arrangement does not suit you then the only way to break the habit is to settle her in the cot. Wen she wakes, does she cry out? Does she just make noises? If she's not crying, I would leave her alone but if she is, then go to her & try to settle her in the cot. She might protest but I would stick to it & either do shh/pat or pu/pd until she falls asleep. She might not settle straight away & it might take you hours but thats all I can think of. Don't take her back to your bed though cause all that crying is a waste & its only going to confuse her. Is this the only nightfeed she is having? Maybe try feeding her & then back into her cot instead of back into your bed.

Does she sleep well during the day without you?

[kerry,(kaceys mum)]

thank you for your quick reply,,,,,,

she does cry out,, i ges thats because im no there,,,

she can go to sleep if im not there ,during the day only, ,, shes a dab hand at this for my parents,, however, for me, she likes to be bf at night till sleepy, then put in cot to sleep,,,

[Layla]

Clever girl . Would you maybe consider changing the last step of your routine at night so that she gets BF first, then you can read her a book or sing a song & in the crib. Let her roll around, etc... & do the last part of the windown herself? It might take some crying or might not... but at the moment she knows that she can be BF to sleep & thats a nice way to go to sleep .

Soooo.... I guess what you'll have to teach her is that she won't be BF to sleep at night OR in the middle of the night. You will have to make a conscious decision not to do it & work on re-settling her other ways. Hard work but worth it.... cause she might actually one day start waking up alot more often & want to be BF to sleep more than once.

Shh/pat might still work or if its not do pu/pd. Stay with her, use comforting words, she will get tired & go to sleep. She will catch on.

btw - she is such a gorgeous little girl!!!

[kerry,(kaceys mum)]

thank you,, she's my little sumo reseller