11 m old wind down

[meltown]

my son just turned 11 mo old and it was like he know it was his birthday because ont hat day he started fighting naps, throwing tantrums and crying and crying, he became quite clingy and such.  well, he is especially not wanting to do wind down anymore.  before we would go in his room change his daper and get his blankie and sit in the rocker for 1 lulliby while he relaxed and then into the crib and he usually would need a little patting or something to help him.  now during the whole wind down he is crying and pushing against me.  we have been doing a shorter nap somewhere in the day for the past few days as I was hoping to fix the skipping naps and fighting bed time.  I am just not sure if I should skip wind down or do something differently with it now that he is getting older or what.

[andibig]

I think i'd keep to the windown routine IMO.could be just his nap or naps need some rejigging.
is he still on two naps Mel?
Andrea

[meltown]

he is in the 2-1 transition.  we started to transition him because of the fighting bed times and skipping naps here and there.  we don't put him down until we see sleepy signs.  I always have put him at my shoulder now he pushes away and I tried sitting him on my lap and he throw his head back and cried and I tried cuddling him and he pushed against me.  he has never had problems like this.  it was overnight too.  like all of a sudden he wants to do everything and do it himself.  he gets very upset if he is looking at a book and you turnt he page or try to lift it a bit so he can turn it.  I don't knwo where my little boy went.

yesterday he did a longer morning nap because it was almost 12:00 byt he time he was tired and today it was 10:30 so he did a short morrning and is now doing a longer afternoon.  a few days ago it was 1 nap only at about 12:30 and he slept 3 hours.  so I'm not sure what to do at this point.

[meltown]

bump

[andibig]

Sorry Mel for the late reply.

The 2-1 transition can be quite a bumpy one.one he is going to want 1 nap sometimes 2.i'd be tempted to still offer 2 because of his age.maybe limit the am nap to 30 mins and his pm longer.if he fights the catnap then i'd make sure that his awake time is no longer than 5-5.5hrs and a slightly earlier bedtime might help as well to prevent him getting overtired.
his behaviour i think is definetly related to his age and his growing independence.
its kinda of "I want to do this mummy but i can't quite do it".incredibly frustrating for them.Sasha would be like this as well if she was on the verge of a big developmental stage like crawling,walking etc.
Hope thats helped a little
Andrea

[meltown]

so because of this independence type thing should I cut the wind down short?  like should I do only half of the song or soemthing?

[andibig]

well i'd say if he is fighting the normal winddown ie not wanting the cuddle etc then i'd maybe just take his cues.
sasha sometimes wants cuddles sometimes she wants none and just wants to go to sleep-LOL
you could try popping hime straight in the crib and sing to him when he is in there with some patting.so just a little rejigging of the windown but not a complete change.

[M and N's Mom]

I had this exact problem a few months ago with DS.  I kind of go with his mood as to how I do the wind-down now.  I used to go into his room, sit in a chair with him (and his lovies...he has 3 and they all have to be there  ) and sing a few songs while he cuddled.  Then, he started fighting the cuddles and pushing off just as you are describing.  So, sometimes I'd let him walk around his room in the dark while I sang.  As he began to understand more I'd give him the choice, "Either you sit with mommy in the chair or go right into your crib."  He'll almost always point to the chair.  If (like today as a matter of fact) he just won't settle in the chair at all I just put him into his crib and say 'night-night'.  In his case he'll mantra cry for a few minutes and then settle into his own wind-down.  HTH.