Hi Elizabeth
Congrats on baby 3
Couple of things ....
When Ciara was newborn we didn't do any BW or EASY until she was 8 weeks old, so hopefully I'm not giving you the wrong advice!! However, regarding the falling asleep on his own. Firstly at that age babies can really only be awake for 1 hour at a time without getting overtired so maybe that is a starting point. I would try to ensure that he is fed, changed, hugged, and wound down, swaddled or whatever and ready to be back asleep by no more than 1 hour after he woke up. This means that you don't miss the window of tiredness that will occur with his natural sleep pattern. When DD was young, we couldn't afford to miss this by 10 mins but there would be hell to pay.
Secondly, at this age he won't be able to self soothe probably so you may still be looking to help him fall asleep, whilst doing this as independently as possible. With DD we would feed, change, swaddle, rock and pat/shh then put into cot when she was REALLY sleep/almost asleep but still just awake and then continue to pat/shh until she was in a deep sleep. For us the key was to have her sleepy before beginning pat/shh or she just seemed to be upset at begin in cot rather than in our arms.
For the night-time feeds, remember that there is no activity time, so you would do feed and straight back to sleep. If DS needs changed I would do that before the feed so he is nice and sleepy/sleeping when you put him back down. You don't want them to learn that there is A time at night
We also used pat/shh at night to settle DD after a feed.
HTH
