big boy bed question

[Gage and Sophie's Mom]

Gage is sleeping happily in his bed, and went willingly.  However, he is also tired from having too much A time and a short nap yesterday. I think this a schedule issue not a big boy bed issue. I think I will try a 6hr A time tomorrow. I haven't been able to find a 2yr old sample EASY routine with 5hr+ A time. I would like to see what others are doing at this age.

[Colin Macs Mom]

The last few nights I've put Colin down at 8pm or even 8:15pm as opposed to the 7:30 we were doing before, and he's slept much better actually!

[*Natasha*]

Hi Gage's Mum (sorry forgotten your name) glad to see you around again.
My DD does 7am wake 12.30pm nap for 1.5hrs sometimes 2hrs never longer then 7.30pm bedtime asleep by 8pm.

[maggie2]

We have a gate up in the doorway of ds's room to make it almost like one huge crib   Have you tried that?  I know that for us, if I had to keep intervening and putting ds back in bed he would take forever to fall asleep.  He does much better just being left alone to play or read or sleep

Hope things start turning around

[*TLC*]

We just switched DD over to a bed a few weeks ago bc she kept climbing out and was sleeping so horrible the last fews month we thought we better do it now as the sleep was bad anyway and we didn't want her to get hurt.

We also used a gate at the door which really seemed to work well.  We still kept guiding her back to her bed when she would get up and come to the gate.  If she did not come to the gate and played a little we left it alone (she only did that a few times) she then would climb back in her bed at some point.  About a week or so she had night wakings and we had to keep putting her back to bed, a few times I had to stay in her room until she started to drift asleep.  Overall though it went much better then I thought is was and her sleep has improved greatly.  KNOCK ON WOOD.  I found I also had to move her afternoon nap earlier as she is an early riser (6am).  Her nap is at 12 for never more then 1.5 hrs (never was a long naper) and she is in bed by 7:30.  I have tried to move it back later to see if she will sleep later (many, many, many times before) and she doesn't sleep any later and odds are I have a harder time getting her to bed (even when increased slightly).

Hope this helps.

Tracy 

[Gage and Sophie's Mom]

ok I stretched him 6hrs, and he is there standing at the door after a 5 or so min cry. What do I if he cries?

[*Natasha*]

Take him back to his bed without talking to him and lay him back down.

[Gage and Sophie's Mom]

thank you for responding Natasha. Congrats on the new baby! I just took him back to bed, and he is now crying. I need some reassurance that he is okay..... it feels like the cc method.

[*Natasha*]

If he is crying lying in his bed you may need to do the Gradual Withdrawl method and WI/WO.

[maggie2]

For a little while, I had to sit outside his door (next to the gate) until he fell asleep.  I actually sometimes needed to sit in the room with him if he was really upset and the would move closer and closer to the door until I was at the doorway.  This way, I knew he wouldn't feel abandoned and I was still there for him.  I would just grab a book and read outside his door.  Then eventually, I was able to leave his door open and I would walk into the next room for 5 seconds or something and I would walk back out into the hallway where he could see me before he got upset.  so I ended up tidying up a bit in the hallway, and giving him a chance to feel comfortable with me out of sight for a few seconds at a time and now he's great a getting himself to sleep by himself - I just leave his door open.

HTH (and makes sense! )

[*TLC*]

For a little while, I had to sit outside his door (next to the gate) until he fell asleep.  I actually sometimes needed to sit in the room with him if he was really upset and the would move closer and closer to the door until I was at the doorway.  This way, I knew he wouldn't feel abandoned and I was still there for him.  I would just grab a book and read outside his door.  Then eventually, I was able to leave his door open and I would walk into the next room for 5 seconds or something and I would walk back out into the hallway where he could see me before he got upset.  so I ended up tidying up a bit in the hallway, and giving him a chance to feel comfortable with me out of sight for a few seconds at a time and now he's great a getting himself to sleep by himself - I just leave his door open.

HTH (and makes sense! )

Seriously Maggie2 are you typing these posts for me?  Both your posts are exactly what we did.....lol

Tracy 

[Colin Macs Mom]

LOL

[Gage and Sophie's Mom]

Gage finally fell asleep at 10am (2.5 hrs after bed) then was right back up this morning at 6pm! As a result, he had a nap at 10:30 am this morning, so our whole day if waaaaay off. I did try to stand in the door, but although he stopped crying he started farting around in his bed. I don't know why he would need the gradual withdrawl method as we have been baby whispering since 4mths old and he was a PERFECT sleeper before (which took a lot of work). With that said, I am willing to try anything to help my bub sleep.

[Colin Macs Mom]

Maybe he's just really excited about the newfound freedom?

[maggie2]

I would tend to think that even though he felt completely comfortable in his crib before, sleeping becomes different with such a big change and he may need you to help teach him independent sleep in this new bed - I would think it's something like if you move and your child goes to a new school - they could have been perfectly content at school before, but may need mommy to be there for them to help them adjust.  Does that make any sense at all?  Just my 2 cents

Ds also took a couple of weeks to adjust.  He too, would stay up for 2 hours or more fiddling around until he finally fell asleep.  But he falls asleep very quickly now (within 20 minutes I would say - but it's a very happy 20 minutes).  He is waking really early now, but that's another story (thinking that has more to do with his routine than his bed ).

Sorry to hear of your early wake ups.