Sarah-Not sure I have anything to add, but let me tell you about my nights...just so you can see you're not alone.
I have mentioned to you that Cole gives me 11 total hour of sleep. Well, the last two days it's been 10
A sample day:
7:00 wake
nap at school is anywhere from 12:30-2:30...the last two days 1:30-2:30
Dinner between 6:30-7:00. (We get home at 6:00, so unless I am super organized, that is the earliest)
Play time-varies. Cole takes at least an HOUR to get into bed from the time we go upstairs. Doesn't matter if we have full bath or "sink" bath as I call it. so I do my math....hmmmm, 7am wake, 1 hour nap, means 9pm sleep so upstairs by 8. Of course, I had him in bed between 9-9:15 last night...and he should have been totally knackered, right? he certainly looked tired. Didn't fall asleep until 9:45pm. Now, I am in the room, holding his hand through the crib rails. This is something I have come to accept. Why? Because it works. I just cannot do another stint of sleep training. I have listened to him cry and cry and cry for two years. He too has been BWd to death. Anyway, that's another thread.
After bath or sink bath...we go to his room. He fights getting dressed. I try to relax. Recently he wants to play with cars in his room. Which is fine. Problem is he wants to continue playing cars and THEN read books and by then it's far too late. If I read a book he wants more books.
You see where I'm going here? I know I have to limit him. But I also feel I need to listen to him. If I put him in his crib too early, he cries. I have TRIED earlier bedtime. Gosh, if I tried to get him down by 8, he'd be crying for two hours, seriously.
Anyway, I wish you luck. This is my story. I wanted to see your routine to see if it needed tweaking...but looks about right. It's not like he's having a 3 hour nap and waking in the night. 1.5 hours is totally normal.
I know for me, until i allowed the later bedtime, he was waking. And it burns me that it works. Because like you, all the reading I've done says earlier bedtime etc.
I have to ask you this:
Is he happy?
Is he thriving?
Until someone posed those questions to me I was worried. Then I realized that sleep is Cole's ONLY issue. he speaks incredibly well, eats well, has great hand-eye co-ordination, is creative, is a joy to be around.
so, I finally, finally had to give in on having him fit the "average".
If Logan goes to sleep at 9, what time does he wake in the morning. And is there a pattern to his nightly wakings?
*phew* that is long enough. at least you've done the big bed transition. oh the fun i expect in the next month or so when we try that!