Hi Spirited Baby Lovers,
I too am a mom of a SSB (Sweet Spirited Baby). His name is Benjamin and he turned 5 months old on 4/14/08. I started out as a Baby Wise mom, but after he was diagnosed with reflux, I couldn't even consider letting him CIO. Besides that, the 2 times I tried to have him CIO he made himself sick and even more OT. Then, around 3 months old I started trying to follow Dr Sears because I was distraught over the pain he was in from the reflux, but the Sears methods just made things worse for us. I'm really happy I finally found Tracy's writings and only wish I had sooner. I just bought her book on Toddlers in hopes to get a head start. This website support group is really wonderful. I'm quickly learning from all of you that spirited babies will continue to challenge us for a long time, so I shouldn't expect him to suddenly turn into an Angel baby just because we're following a routine. And, I have learned that with a spirited baby I need to be patient and flexible. Just being able to identify his personality and moods better has really helped me cope a lot better.
Right now our main challenge is the 30-45 minute naps. Last week I tried using PU/PD, but that didn't work, so yesterday I tried pat/shhhh.. and it really helped
My LO slept for 1.5 hrs during his midday nap, and went down easily and slept 2.5 hrs during his late afternoon nap!!! Today so far I've only managed to get him to sleep 1:15 and :45, but I did sort of mess up his day by taking him to lunch w/a friend and keeping him up for 3 hours straight. On top of that, he started our day at 0530. Hopefully this afternoon will go okay.
For napping I know that Tracy suggests the babies lay on their side, which certainly would make it much easier to do the pat part of pat/shhhh.., but what do you do if your LO refuses to lay on his side? How do you soothe them? Mine is a back sleeper and won't stay on his side. If I try to hold him there, he just squirms and fights until he's on his back. Also, his legs are constantly moving...I hope that's normal...I'll have to ask our Pediatrician.
I noticed that most of you have a 12 hour day. I have yet to experience that. My LO would love to go to bed by 7:00-7:30, but then he's wide awake at 3am, 4am and 5am, and refuses to go back to sleep after that. So, I've slid his bedtime to just after 8:00. He still wakes up around 4am to eat, and then I try to get him to go back to bed and stay asleep until at least 0600 at which time I feed him again just to start the day off right. He gets a dreamfeed (BF) and swaddle at 10:00, so I'm not sure what else I can do. I would be in Heaven if he slept 7-7 with just a dreamfeed around 9:30 or 10:00. Does anyone else have this same problem? Any suggestions?
I need to run and do the pat/shhhh.... thing again now. Have a great day!
Audrey