Yeah,
We moved to GA. Don't worry too much about breaking the rules. You HAVE to do what makes you sane. I know the hours over the crib thing, with a 20 min nap. Lyle woke after 35 min, of my "success" I tried resettling about 3 times, and then said, you know what, maybe you've had enough. Yesterday he didn't sleep much, maybe 2 hours, but he spend hours in his bed. And we had a major NW. I think it's because he spent so much time in his bed, really.
I would try giving the naps, make sure you are trying to give him indpendence and make a rule. I will spend X amount of time on this, and that's that. Being away from home is hard enough on the emotions, let alone spending hours and hours and hours in their room. If I wouldn't have stopped doing that, I know i'd be on meds by now. Don't get me wrong, somedays I still do, like yesterday. But I refuss to do it day after day now.