Hi, Jackson William's mom!
How is it doing? I hope things are better, but , as others in PP said: it is a log term game. My DD is almost 9 months now, but it took me/her until 3 months old at least, to learn to fall asleep in the crib, by herself, and even then - not every time. Since 3-4 weeks old, she was often crying her head off, before falling asleep, I was doing the ssh/pat, but sometimes she would arch back and my DH discovered that it was better to put her on our bed and ssh/pat her lying there, then put her in her bassinet, once calmed down.. or not:I started to ssh/put her in her bassinet, with my upper body/ arms around her, till she would finally calm down. It could have taken 45 minutes to put her to sleep, I almost hated the BW book ;-) I thought I had a super Grumpy/ Spirited baby. I didn't know yet, that she needed , for example, an earlier Bedtime, not 7 PM rather 6 PM. And didn't have much support form In-laws in trying to establish a routine for the baby. So this to say I too felt like all my days are about putting her to sleep. But eventually about 4 months age all things started falling into place.
I read the book " Healthy sleep habits, Happy child"- helped me to understand a lot about the mechanisms of sleep+ gave support in my defending her naps against the relatives. If you skip the CIO method the author of this book advises, you can get good info from there, just use the BW methods to teach the child independent sleep.They do learn it with time and parents consistency!
At about 4 months baby's brain sleep patterns "mature" and get better organised so they can sleep through the night ) almost), and learn naps schedule. So what you invest in the baby now, even if you don't get immediate success, you will receive later, trust me!
Hope it helps, I know how hard it is in the beginning, especially with the first child