Hello,
I had a few questions in hopes of someone being able to help. I have a three month old lo and he has always been a short napper. I've been struggling with it for quite some time. People have been telling me that some kids just don't take long naps. This would be find if Carter didn't wake up crying and grumpy because he usually has an hour to an hour and a half before he has to eat again. He is swaddled and usually can be put straight into the crib for a nap. I have read other posts and was wondering if he was over stimulated. Yesterday I tried to take him upto his room about a half hour before nap time to play quietly in his crib and then walk around with him. He went down without a problem but of course was up about forty minutes I turned him on his side to shh pat him back to sleep which took about 30 minutes and then had to wake him 20 minutes later to eat. The next time I followed the same wind down and then anticipated his wake, to see why he was wakeing up. There were no jolts, no wet diaper, he slowly opened his eyes and started to cry. I shh patted him back to sleep which took only 10 minutes and then had to wake him forty minutes to eat. Should I keep up with this strategy, I'm just afraid I'm confusing him by putting him back to bed and then waking him 30-40 minutes later for his three hour feed. Here is a rough outline of his schedule
Wake for 1st feed between 5 and 7am
Usually straight back to bed
Second feed at 10:00 am
A time from 10:30-11:30
S time from 11:30-12:00
Up again @ 12:00 high maintenance until next feed at 1
Third feed at 1:00
A time from 1:30-2:30
S time from 2:30-3:00
Up again at 3:00 high maintenance until next feed at 4:00pm
Fourth feed at 4:00
A time from 4:30-5:30
S time from 5:30-6:00
Up again at 6:00 high maintenance until next feed at 7:00pm
Fifth feed at 7:00
A time from 7:30-8:30
S time 8:30 -9:00
9:00 bath time and last bottle
Night sleep with next feed between 5:00-7:00 am
I think I have a spirited little boy, he is physically active and very alert, he would rather look all around than look at my face. I take no offence to that.
Any suggestions would be great.
Carter's mom
Tina
There is one book I read re: sleep patterns and when sleep develops among children. Your issue re: short naps is somewhat universal. Many kids can be taught how to take longer naps. There are also developmental timelines when the naps develop into longer naps. The first nap to develop is the morning nap as it is often an extension of night time sleep. That develops around 3 months, so about now. the second one to develop is at 4 months and that is the afternoon nap.
That being said, you can teach a child to nap longer. We were able to with our DD so she had good naps. See the links below. Also check out the other nap FAQ's.
Just out of curiosity, why did you wake him to feed him? Was it the 3 hr mark? I would have just let him go until he naturally woke up. It may have been longer than the 3 hr EASY, but that will help keep him from getting OverTired (OT) or Over Stimulated (OS). The 3 hr EASY is a guideline, not a rule.
Generally speaking, based on the routine, he is probably over tired. His bed time is very late as compared to his wake time. What time is he up for the day?
Also, at his age, his A times could be as short as 1 hr still including feeding, althogh 1.5 hrs is possible, he'll probably still have a combination of any where between 1-1.5 hrs.
HTH
As for the r