Thanks for the hugs
I have been trying to do sleep training in earnest now, no more holding her to sleep but our schedule gets mixed up so I end up feeding her before naptime and she inevitably dozes off. I have also been doing the shh-pat wrong (or the shhh in our case, the pat doesn't work), because I thought I had to start it when I put her down, but found out that you're not supposed to unless they are crying.
Michelle, I BF and DD is currently swaddled with one arm out for naps, and totally swaddled for night. She breaks free really easily though. I don't think she really likes it. I give her a bath around midday because up until she was 6 weeks old, we used to bath her before bedtime. Then she started having screaming meltdowns after bath and we realized they were overtiring her. When we stopped the evening bath, she stopped the screaming.
We don't have much of an EASY schedule anymore, but I will post what happened today:
4:30am E
8:30am E (but not much, usually not really hungry first thing - why? I don't know?), then A
10am E again (this time she is hungry)
10:30am put into bed awake but happy, eating her hand and looking around, until 10:50am, then starts to cry, a bit hysterical, I shhhh'ed her in her bed, asleep in 10 minutes
11-11:50am S
11:50am A, b/c not hungry
12:30pm E, not a full feeding in my mind, then bath
1:00pm E again, dozed off,
1:25pm she was half asleep when I swaddled her and put her to bed...I jostled her a bit and she woke and looked at me like I was crazy and went back to sleep
2:15pm woke up at 45 minute mark, I shhhh'ed her back to sleep
2:30-4:30pm S, yay!
4:40pm E
5:50pm E
6:10pm put her down for nap but only slept 10 minutes
7:30pm E
8:00pm S
Okay I hope that makes sense. Yesterday I tried W2S for her second nap, and she didn't wake up at the 45 minute mark. I was also sitting with her for the first 45 minutes anyway; today I wasn't able to so do you think I should try it again tomorrow? and for the first nap?