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« on: February 03, 2008, 18:47:43 pm »
this may be more of a lounge question but here goes.

Dh & I are trying to find a church. DS is now 15 mo old and we're still looking. when he was younger, it was no big deal to bring him into the church service.  now that he is older, we can not bring him into church. ok, i prob can but he can't sit that long, he'll disturb everyone else and us, etc.  however, i feel uncomfortable putting him into a church nursery where i don't know anyone so of course this makes it difficult to go to church! it is kinda hard to find a babysitter on sunday morning!

am i being silly?
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Re: church nursery
« Reply #1 on: February 03, 2008, 18:52:00 pm »
We have a church creche that is supervised by a rota of parents of children who attend the creche.  i am sure that for the first few times you may not even set foot inside the church for the service but just let ds get used to the surroundings.  then after a little while would you be able to creep into the service for a while?
Could you offer to be on the creche rota too?  That way you'd see how things work and also get to know some new people too?

i'm a sunday school teacher for the older children and its a great way to meet other parents etc.

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Re: church nursery
« Reply #2 on: February 03, 2008, 19:23:25 pm »
In our church all the volunteers working with children are required to have criminal and child abuse background checks...  :-\ 

Maybe you and dh could alternate and one of you can spend time with ds in the nursery and the other the following week and maybe by week 3 you would be comfortable leaving him.


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Re: church nursery
« Reply #3 on: February 03, 2008, 19:39:32 pm »
those are good ideas - thanks!
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« Reply #4 on: February 03, 2008, 20:12:32 pm »
No, don't think you're silly at all...I have never put my Lo's in a church that I don't "attend"...our home church is a different story....I happily leave them there!  ;) I also take a turn in the rotation....but I grew up in my church, so I really do "know" everyone...

But when we visit a church, I don't leave them

(FWIW, our church is required criminal record checks by workers as well!)

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Re: church nursery
« Reply #5 on: February 03, 2008, 21:49:15 pm »
so do you keep them w/ you during the service?
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« Reply #6 on: February 04, 2008, 00:34:47 am »
If we are at a guest church, I will keep them with me until the sermon starts (usually singing/prayer etc.) and then I will take them down to the nursery. I will stay (and if they tell you it's "not allowed", then they don't respect you as a guest at their church or a parent) and my husband will sometimes come and switch with me. I also believe that if you're not going to be regularly attending that church, why traumatize the child?

That said, sometimes we attend my best friend's church and will leave them down there without us. But I trust her judgement....and she leaves her own babies down there...

I do know people that have no problem putting their LO's in social environments like a nursery...it's all your comfort level!

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Re: church nursery
« Reply #7 on: February 04, 2008, 03:40:03 am »
that's a really good idea.....most bigger churches televise the service  to the foyer or even have an upstairs level where we may not be as annoying. that would definitely work for us. plus, my husband has no interest in attending sunday school but i do so i'm hoping he will volunteer to teach sunday school to the toddlers or work in the nursery. that would work out for cade if DH is in the area. (we're also in the middle of major SA right now!)

ok, i have no more excuses not to go next sunday!
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Re: church nursery
« Reply #8 on: February 04, 2008, 05:32:10 am »
One of our prerequisites for finding a church when we moved here is that it had to have a "cry room," a separate room where families with loud babies/toddlers (like mine!) can still see/hear Mass but are separated by glass. Does that make any sense? It sounds kind of like the separate area you're talking about. It's the only way we can go to church since I'm not comfortable with the nursery thing. Sometimes the cry room is full and we've had to sit among the general population with both kids. :o I may be a terrible mom, but snacks and, um, lollipops usually keep Mackenzie happy for awhile.
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Re: church nursery
« Reply #9 on: February 04, 2008, 13:49:40 pm »
yes, i've seen those but mainly at catholic churches. DH is catholic and I'm Baptist....so we've been mainly looking at protestant churches. i haven't really seen them but i haven't had this problem until now.

i guess i should call and ask beforehand.

i've yet to give cade a lollipop!
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« Reply #10 on: February 04, 2008, 15:44:11 pm »
Heather, I'm baptist....and we have a "cry room" but it's not partitioned by glass...it televises the sermon. I also found it great when I was nursing, as I could continue seeing the sermon without anyone "peeking" at me! (DS was BAD for pulling the receiving blanket down...nosy parker!)  :-*

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Re: church nursery
« Reply #11 on: February 04, 2008, 18:12:50 pm »
ok, i'm sure most churches have them by now so i just need to start asking where they are!
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Re: church nursery
« Reply #12 on: February 04, 2008, 19:06:38 pm »
We go to a Free Methodist church and one of the main reasons why we love it is the wonderful environment it provides for children.  All the children go to a classroom that corresponds to their age and all activities/lessons/toys are suited to their age.  And like others have said, all volunteers have criminal background checks done.  We also have a system where you check in your child, they have a unique number assigned to them and printed on a sticky label that goes on their back, and we are given a sticky label with that number on it too.  In order to pick your child up, you must have the sticker with the corresponding number and you must be the person who dropped the child off.  I think there is a way to allow other people to pick up a child, but we haven't done that yet.  We feel very secure in leaving her there and she has fun. 

And you're right that big churches will often televise the service out in the common areas and that is a major help!  Sometimes we sit in the cafe at our church, Lucy eats a muffin, I drink a mocha, and I watch the service.  Not ideal because I'd rather be in the service, but better than nothing.

I also want to add that I was brought up Catholic, but found a church that felt like home to me despite not being anything like a Catholic mass.  Let your heart guide you and I am sure you find just the right environment!  Have fun!  :-*

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Re: church nursery
« Reply #13 on: February 04, 2008, 19:16:14 pm »
most of the churches we have visited have a similar system for the nursery, which i love. until we really commit, i'm not going to traumatize cade yet!

i feel more confident about trying somewhere new this sunday...thanks so much everyone!
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Re: church nursery
« Reply #14 on: February 04, 2008, 21:21:50 pm »
FWIW, in our church, children are welcome in the sanctuary.  There are activity packets for the little ones, and unless a child is crying inconsolably, no one says anything  ;D

Go for it Heather!  Can't wait to hear how it goes!  :-*


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