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Offline Aly Mac

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Gee this is hard.....
« on: March 07, 2008, 07:49:02 am »
for me anyway...... decided tonight to drop the nighttime bf.  That only leaves the morning one.  I was planning on doing it soon, but wasn't sure when.  Well last night i went to the movies with some gf's and dh did the bedtime routine with a sippy of milk instead of me bf (I wasn't home of course) and it all went well. no probs, down in the cot asleep easy.  So I thought, the window of opportunity is here, maybe now is the time for this, since we are one night down anyway...and all her teeth are nearly in (just one more and the 2yr molars) and her one nap is going well.....which was my plan...after all that...

so dh is in her room now iwth her putting her to bed...so why do I feel a terrible tug at my heart  :-\  I think I will miss doing the bedtime routine for a while.  :'( figured it was easier with dh than with me.

ahhh, just wanted to put it out there I guess..


well in the time it's taken me to type this post, she's had some milk, cuddled her lovey into dh, and wanted bed. she's not asleep, but she's not upset either...  apparently like last night.

I think mummy might need some extra cuddles tomorrow... :'( :'(

thanks for listening.... :-*
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2008, 08:04:17 am »
God you've done so well to get that far, but i know whats it like when you stop. Heatrbreaking :'(

don't worry it will only take a short while and you can then put her to bed again and im sure she will make up for them lost hugs today :-*

{{{hugs}}} from me too, i know its not the same

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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2008, 08:08:02 am »
hugs aleesa - you can also make the morning BF special and have some close cuddle time.  ease the transition time at least.  :-*
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #3 on: March 07, 2008, 08:24:32 am »
Aleesa, I found Harry dropping the bed time feed really hard. It was our special time and it broke my heart.  BUT you have done brilliantly to feed her for this long. You deserve a HUGE pat on the back!  :-* :-*
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #4 on: March 07, 2008, 08:43:27 am »
Hi Aleesa,

I fed Oscar morning and evening till 15 mths and it was him who decided enough was enough with the morning feed and after that, DH decided we put a stop to the night feed as well and he was right....he sent me 200km away to a friend's hen weekend and when I came back two nights later my little baby had suddenly become a little man, drinking 210 to 240ml from a sippy and being proud of it! It was hard but now I am glad I did it when I did because when he hit about 20 mths he suddenly took an interest again (saw a friend's toddler using her breasts as a dummy during a playdate) and I think if I had waited that long things might have been different,...

Be happy you BF for so long but also be happy that your gorgeous little LillyMay is moving onto another phase in her life and is obviously ready for it!

Good luck and congrats on both the 16 months behind you and the recent change you've made... :)

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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #5 on: March 07, 2008, 08:54:40 am »
Hi hun,
as I said in my other post... and just allow yourself some 'mourning-time' and to feel all the mixed emotions. Things change and you've done soo well bf for this long! You will miss it, think we all do, but you will also have more freedom and new things to come. Think all mums have these mixed feelings about their LOs growing up. We naturally want them to grow up and get bigger, learn new things and find their independence, but at the same time a small part of us wishes they'd be babies forever. Dealing with EW/NW/tantrums and everything else, at the moment that is a very small part of me though  ;)
And you'll still have the am feed for a while longer. Huge hugs!
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #6 on: March 07, 2008, 08:57:59 am »
HUGS  :-*
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #7 on: March 07, 2008, 09:26:33 am »
ok, now you all have me in tears.... thank you so much for your replies.  I appreciate it.  I was telling her tonight before she went to bed, that mummy loved her very much.  I guess it's missing that cuddle time with her, which in a way is me recieving some love.  oooh, never would have thought, when i started bfing, that I would ever feel this way... I've had some ups and downs, but really, it has come so easily to both of us, and for that I feel really lucky.  We have gotten to the point where for the 2 feeds she would feed for an hour (litterally) if I let her, so I knew that this was only going to get harder. 

So glad I still have the morning feeds  :-*

thanks again everyone, I do appreciate it.
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #8 on: March 07, 2008, 09:58:01 am »
 :'( :-*
Extra cuddles tomorrow.
It says a lot that she's handling it so well. She obviously feels very secure and you've timed it really well. Feel proud.
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #9 on: March 07, 2008, 11:24:48 am »
And some more cuddles from me. I remember being in floods of tears when I realized Lisi had far fewer problems dropping the bed time feed than me.

The first of the many bittersweet moments watching our LOs grow up and become independant people.

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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #10 on: March 07, 2008, 11:30:58 am »
HUGS hon :-*
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #11 on: March 07, 2008, 11:35:19 am »
BIG HUGS have so been there.  I cherished the last a.m for as long as we could.  :-*
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #12 on: March 07, 2008, 11:50:13 am »
{{{hugs}}}  :'(  :-*  The memories all come flooding back to me too.  {{{hugs}}}
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #13 on: March 07, 2008, 17:41:37 pm »
This is such a sweet thread!  Makes me want to cry those happy love tears.    :-*
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Re: Gee this is hard.....
« Reply #14 on: March 07, 2008, 20:51:13 pm »
Big Big hugs xxxxxxxxx
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