only 1 NW left to fix

[mari]

Well, at her age, some children still have a little morning nap so if she is really tired you could try a little catnap in the morning around 10ish just for half an hour and then another long nap at 1pm, what do you think?

(sorry if this is late BTW)  Let me know how you got on today

[jcjc205]

She went down at 12pm and only did 1 hr so I put her down at 7 to make up for some lost sleep.

This time she only took less than 30min to go down and a lot less crying

I hope there aren't too many NWs tonight

It's going well so far, but then again, it's only been one day

[Layla]

You're doing really well!

If she wakes around 7.30-8am then try for 2 naps; the morning nap around 11am for 45mins or so and the afternoon nap around 3pm

As a rule of thumb... if the morning nap is only 30mins long, put her down for the afternoon nap no more than 3hrs later (that is, for her to be asleep by 3hrs... so start your windown routine at 2.5hrs)

If the morning nap is 45mins long, do your windown routine about 3hrs later so that she's hopefully asleep by 3.5hrs.

Bedtime is generally no more than 4hrs later

If she's not taking the morning nap then aim for 1 nap and put her down earlier for the night to make up for the lost sleep

At her age, around 13hrs is about right

Fingers crossed for a good night!!!

[jcjc205]

Thanks for the nap advice. I'll keep it in mind.

The night was extremely good given the circumstances.

Put down for bed at 7pm, asleep by 7:30 and not a peep until 6am!!!! at which point it took her about 1.5 hrs to go back to sleep, but because she slept 2 min and woke up to make sure I was still there I guess. She woke up for the day at 8:20am

I'm sooooo happy this is working   

[mari]

So glad this is working.  Be prepared for a few hiccups so don't give up, I predict an easy solution here, Clara is a quick learner!

[jcjc205]

Well, last night went "well" went down after 20min at 7:30, woke up at 2am and took 40min to get back to sleep. Then woke up at 4am and took 5 min to get back to sleep, then woke up at 5am and here is where i think i made a mistake. It was soooo cold in our room that I let her sleep with me. I she went to sleep right away and woke up at 7am all happy and rested.

Today she naped for 1 hr (12:30-1:30) after 30min of crying and then woke up, but I was able to get her back to sleep and it's now 2:20 and she's still sleeping!!!

I feel that this is going very well  what do you think?

[Layla]

I think she's doing very well

[mari]

Yes, its oin really well by the sound of it.  Be careful with takin her into your bed if you don't want it to continue, you'll be amazed at how easily they pick up on something

[jcjc205]

UPDATE:

She's been doing very well during the night. Last night she went from 8 to 5.

However, she's been waking up almost every night between 4 - 6 and she takes at least an hour to go back to sleep.

She's also not naping well, only once since tuesday has she done more than 1 hr for nap.

Any suggestions for these two?

[Layla]

Not napping well during the day can lead to long and many nightwakings at night... so they are probably related.

What time does her aunt put her down for a nap? Its hard with naps around this age as she may not be too good on 1 nap yet so could aunty put her down for a catnap in the morning and then another nap 3hrs later?

The best thing is not to keep her up too long so if she;s only had 1nap and it ends say at 1pm, then try to have her in bed for the night around 6-6.30pm

[jcjc205]

I've tried but it's impossible since I get home at 6:30 earliest.

She's not tired in the morning so she wouldn't sleep even if I tried. Today she only naped 1.5 hrs (12-1:30) and she was up at 7am. I'll try to get her to bed at 7, but that may not happen

I can live with the EW I guess...

[Layla]

I think 1.5hrs and a 7am start is great!!! It all depends on what you call early waking...

I think if you can stick to the 7am, 12-1.30nap and 7pm bedtime then that would be great and things will improve. Can aunt feed her and you do the bedtime routine... i know things will be rushed... but then slowly you can look at pushing her nap to 12.30pm and then 1pm so that she's waking at 8am, nap is from 1-2.30/3pm and bedtime is 8pm!

[jcjc205]

I'm perfectly happy with the 7am wake-up, as long as there isn't one at around 5am that takes an hour for her to resettle.

She still hasn't stoped this. Yesterday I got home at 6:45pm and I tried to get her to bed right away. She was finally asleep at 8:15pm. No crying, just turning like crazy. But I'm pretty sure it was because yesterday she figured out how to stand up w/o having to pull herself up from anything, which is what she kept on doing on her crib for at least an hr.

And then she was up a lot. First at 12am, which I didn't mind too much since I hadn't fallen asleep yet. Then 1am, but it only took maybe 20min to resettle. Then up at 4am and this one took 1.5 hrs. and then up at 7am for the day. Every time, she kept on practicing her "standing-up"

So that 4 - 6am NW is the one I need to get rid of.

One more thing, my aunt refused to help w/ the trainning and put her down for her nap w/ bottle, but I guess there's not much I can do there.

Suggestions?

[Lissybits]

That's a tough one DH refused to do WI/WO when we were sleep training DS. We argued so much about it too and unfortunately he was the one that put DS to bed as I don't get home until 10pm.
Not much you can do, apart from gently explaining to your Aunt what you are trying to achieve and why - but you've probably tried that already.
What I did, was to resign myself to the fact that DS would go to bed one way with DH and another way with me. And of course I did all the NWs. I think the whole sleep training probably took a little bit longer this way though
I really feel for you - it's  a difficult situation and of course you have to be grateful that Aunt helps with DD and all that:P
But you are doing really well and have achieved so much in such a short time! Just carry on as you are!
Hugs
Lis
 

[mari]

As far as you Aunt is concerned.  I had this prob with MIL and you will be surprised how they adapt to doing things with different people.  I realised that MIL put Alex with a bottle until a few weeks ago!!!!  But I haven't had a problem getting her off to sleep, apparantly she never adapted her and didn't take any notice of what I say (never does, but that's another story!!!) anyhow, it didn't affect the way that she went to bed for me, MIL only puts her to bed once a week occasionally.

I would try to get your Aunt to help with the consistency but TBH if she isn't there too often then I woulndn;t worry too much.