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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #15 on: June 03, 2008, 19:57:12 pm »
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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #16 on: June 04, 2008, 03:38:45 am »
I copy and pasted this from the EASY FAQ's

If you are just about to give up on EASY or just having doubts- please read those wonderful supportive words from Tracy Hogg and don't forget you can always ask for help here Smiley

Taken from Babywhisperer Solves All Your Problems.

EASY- it is not a schedule, because you cannot fit a baby into a clock. It’s a routine that gives the day structure and makes family life consistent, which is important because all  of us, children and adults, as well as babies and toddlers, thrive on predictability. Everyone benefits: Baby knows what’s coming next. Siblings, if there are any, get more time with Mum and Dad- and they get to have les harried parents who have time for themselves as well.

When EASY seems hard.
Most parents’ queries are not about routines. Instead, their questions tend to focus on one of the letters of EASY. They might ask, “Why are my baby’s feeds too short?” (E), “Why is he cranky and uninterested in his toys? (A), or “Why does she wake up several times during the night?” (S). But we (…) have to look at how the three areas are interrelated (…). Eating affects sleep and activity; activity affects eating and sleeping; sleep affects activity and eating- and all of them will naturally affect you. Without a predictable routine everything in baby’s life can go haywire- sometimes all at once. The solution is almost always EASY.

Why go EASY?
EASY is a sensible way to get you and your child through the day. It is composed of repetitive cycles of each letter. The E, A and S are interrelated- changes in one usually affect the other two. Although your baby will transform over the coming months as she grows, the order in which each letter occurs does not.

Write it down!
Parents who actually chart their baby’s day by writing everything down have less trouble sticking to a routine or establishing it for the first time. They are also better observers. Writing things down, even though it seems tedious at the moment will give you a much better perspective. You’ll see patterns more readily, and see how sleep and eating and activity are interrelated. On days that your baby feeds better, I’d just bet he’s less cranky during his awake time and sleeps better too.

Not a schedule.
Parents also have problems with EASY when they think “schedule” and focus more on reading the clock than reading baby’s signals. A structured routine is not the same thing as a schedule. A schedule is about time slots  whereas EASY is about keeping up the same daily pattern- eating, activity, sleeping- and repeating that pattern every day. We’re not trying to control children, we’re guiding them. (…)
Sometimes you’ll have a day when you’re on track and everything goes smoothly and other days not.

Reading baby’s cues.
The most important aspect of EASY is to read your child’s signals- of hunger, of fatigue, of overstimulation- which is more important than any time slot. So if one day, he’s hungry a little earlier, or seems tired before it’s “time” to put him down, don’t let the clock threaten you. Let your common sense take over. And believe me, the better you at interpreting your baby’s cries and body language, the better you’ll be at guiding him and at clearing whatever obstacles gets in the way.
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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #17 on: June 04, 2008, 20:05:59 pm »
Thanks for the reminder not to sweat the details, but to keep the BIG PICTURE in mind.  Sometimes I just forget...


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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #18 on: June 04, 2008, 20:10:50 pm »
We all do that at times  ;) ;) :-* :-*
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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #19 on: July 05, 2008, 02:32:43 am »
How are things going?
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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #20 on: July 07, 2008, 20:08:59 pm »
Well, we moved to a 4hr EASY but it's not so EASY.  He eats every 4hrs, but everything else is all over the map.  During the day, we get 1 EAS cycle if we're lucky.  Sometimes he'll nap 2hrs and sometimes 40 min and there's just no rhyme or reason to it.  When he only sleeps 40min, he starts showing tired signs after only 1-1.5 hrs of A time so we often do EASAS.  Sometimes though it's just so messed up and we end up feeding him and putting him straight to bed, or worse yet, we let him fall asleep on the bottle!  We try to avoid the latter when possible, but sometimes he's due to eat and dead tired and we know he just won't stay awake while eating so we swaddle him up and give him the bottle and let him fall asleep.  He still wakes twice a night to eat, once between 11-1 and once between 2-5.  I try not to sweat the small stuff and to relax and just flow with him, but sometimes it's really hard because we never do anything at the same time so it's hard to plan anything!
our ideal EASY would look something like this

E 7:00
A
S 9:00

E 11
A
S 1

E 3
A
S 5-5:45
A
E 7
S 7:15
 
night feedings at 11 and 3

We just can't seem to get into a regular schedule for anything except E (which I have the most control over).  Any suggestions?


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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #21 on: July 08, 2008, 02:02:51 am »
Is your first EAS the one that's usually a 'real' 4 hour EASY?

When he wakes up at 40 minutes, what is he doing?
What do you do when he wakes?

How is he going down for naps now?

How is his night?

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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #22 on: July 08, 2008, 20:41:41 pm »
Is your first EAS the one that's usually a 'real' 4 hour EASY?
no the second cycle is usually the best one of the day

When he wakes up at 40 minutes, what is he doing?
What do you do when he wakes?
he wakes up, starts cooing to himself and smiles a big happy grin when I walk in and lean over his crib
I've tried to do W2S by tickling his cheek at the 35min point and that seemed to work for a bit but not anymore
sometimes I can get him to go back to sleep if I sit and let him suck on my pinky finger for 5-10 min(he hates the paci, I've discussed this on the prop board), though I usually only get another 40min max out of him with that trick


How is he going down for naps now?
If he's in a good mood he goes down fairly well, we swaddle him and just lay him down and walk out.  He coos to himself for 5-10 min and falls asleep.  If he's not in such a good mood, he cries when we put him down and we have to sit and let him suck a pinky to fall asleep.
There doesn't seem to be any relation to how he falls asleep as to how long he stays asleep (i thought of that)

How is his night?
nights are not bad.  He often falls asleep on the last bottle (I know this is bad, but he's usually so sleepy it's hard to keep him awake through the feed).  If he doesn't fall asleep on the bottle, we put him down and he often needs to suck a pinky for 10min or so to fall asleep.  He wakes 2x in the night to feed but he eats (usually falls back asleep during the feed, but takes a full feed) and goes straight back to bed with no fussing.  His usual bedtime is around 7:30 and he wakes up for the day around 6:30


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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #23 on: July 08, 2008, 20:50:12 pm »
If he is waking up at the 40 minute mark cooing and happy he may need more A time before that particular nap.
Sometimes lo's wake up and coo and then go back to sleep on their own.
How long do you normally leave him in his crib before coming in?

If a lo cries before a nap, it's usually an indication that they are being put down for a nap too early or too late.

Great job on the independent sleep!
Sounds wonderful.
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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #24 on: July 09, 2008, 17:06:37 pm »
I thought of his A time a lot too.  There seems to be no pattern.  Sometimes he's up fo 2hrs or more and still only a 40min nap, sometimes he's up for 1hr and sleeps for 2.   
When he wakes up and coos, we try to give him 10-15 min, or until he starts to scream before we intervene.


BTW, last night he was completely horrible, took 45min to go to sleep, up at 11 to eat, up at 2 to scream (I think he had a lot of gas, he burped and tooted up a storm) finally back to slep at 3 (after eating again), up every hour after that needing soothing, up at 5:45 for the day...we're so tired!


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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #25 on: July 09, 2008, 17:23:13 pm »
30 minutes usually = OT
45 minutes-1 hour usually = in need of more A time

40 minutes is tricky.
With a horrible night like that I would think he might be OT, at least yesterday.
When a lo is OT they have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep and will have early wakings.

Do you notice that he takes better naps with shorter A times?
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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #26 on: July 09, 2008, 17:31:40 pm »
I can't recall off hand, I'll have to look at my written schedule and het back to you tomorrow.


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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #27 on: July 12, 2008, 16:28:37 pm »
He falls asleep more easily with shorter A time but the length of the nap is still variable.


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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #28 on: July 12, 2008, 16:30:16 pm »
BTW, he was up to scream at 1AM again, I think this is becoming a habitual waking, have posted on the night waking board for some help!


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Re: What do you do when your day gets derailed?
« Reply #29 on: July 12, 2008, 23:38:09 pm »
If he's waking at the exact same time every single night, then it's most likely a habit.
You can do W2S to break the habit.
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