DS is 3 months 1 week old. He has been taking 45 minute naps for about a month now, and only 2 of them a day. This is not enough sleep because he is crabby ALL THE TIME except for his first A time of the day. I have tried extending his naps by every means known to man except CIO. I have tried not extending his naps and helping him have more (he wouldn't take more). I try w2s almost every nap, I was only successful once. I try shh-pat to extend, that only worked once, too, and after 30 minutes of shh-pat!
This morning after he woke up after 40 minutes, (I did try w2s but it didn't work), I shh-patted him for 50 minutes. He would drop right off, stay out for 10 minutes, then wake and cry, go back to sleep within a minute or two, stay out for another 10 minutes, then wake and cry. Finally I gave up as it was time for his next feed. When I picked him up out of the crib, he immediately began crying and rubbing his eyes, yawning and nuzzling me. I was so angry I wanted to bite him, or just leave him on the nursery floor and leave the house. (I put him back in his crib and went to my bedroom and threw shoes at the wall for a few minutes.) Right now he's in his gym half-fussing half-playing, and I'm so irritated I don't really even want to play with him
. I need help because I hate feeling this way; I love my boy and want to enjoy him.
Here is how the mornings have been going:
6:45-7:15 wake, eat, dress, activity
8:30-8:45 wind-down; diaper change, story, lights out, swaddle, lullabye and into crib.
half an hour later, w2s which doesn't work (how much should he stir to make it work? maybe I'm afraid of waking him?)
9:15-9:30 wakes up crying inspite of my being there with the pressure at the jolts.
wake-up until 10:00; shh-pat, usually very unsuccessful.
I can't tell you the routine from there on out, because it's different every day because he's so tired!! And so am I....he wakes 3-4 times a night and I NEED him to take naps so I can get at least one a day! PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME!