Hello ladies! just after either some advice or just some that what I have decided to do is the right plan.
First I will do a small explanation. My DD has been sleeping independently since she was weeks old. She will even ask for bed etc, still needs her routine very much. Must nap at 11.30 and be in bed by 7 or the OT monster kicks in. She will pretty much go to sleep for anyone so long as she is in her own bed. I can pretty ,much get her to sleep anywhere (so long as she has her white noise and her lovies
) but for anyone else to do it she has to be at home.
I ahve only left her twice before, once when she was 7 weeks old and once last year when she was about 18months. But both times my mum has stayed here with her and all was fine.
Ok back to my prob, next Saturday the kids are sleeping over at my mums house. DH and I have a reunion ball to go to and have another couple staying over here as they are travelling quite far.
We have stayed at my mums before and DD slept fine but I was there to put her to bed and when she woke up.
Today I was working so instead of mum coming here I though it would be a good practise run to have DD nap over at herhouse. By chance I had to pop back to my mums house to drop in DDs lunch for when she woke up. When I went in mum said she wouldnt settle and had been crying for 5 mins. I have never and will never leave DD to cry (neither would my mum but she isn't as good with reading her cries as I am)we usually do WI/WO if she cries, so she was really upset. The other thing is that she sleeps in a BGB at home and was in a travel cot at mums which is where she always sleeps when we are away anywhere. When I went in the room DD had taken off her sleeping bag and nappy and was really sobbing. I picked her up and cuddled her, tried to get her to go back to bed but she was too upset
I think if my mum had gone in and re settled her she may have been ok but it was too late by the time I got there , it was 30 mins past normal nap time. So mum ended up taking her out in the car to get her to sleep
so now I am faced with a problem, I need her to not associate her bed at mums with crying. She kept telling me tonight that she was sad and "no sleep Gran Mary's house"
I need her to sleep there next week!!
Do you think I should do some intensive training there this week (LOL what do I sound like
) take her round every day to nap there and get my mum to do it by the end of the week? or just wing it and let my mum do whatever needed to get her to sleep?
The only problem with never APing to sleep is that DD can never be AP'd to sleep even if we wanted her to! LOL
sorry it is sooooo long , I feel sad for my girl and a little for my mum. She thought she was doing best and didnt want to rush in
TIA
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