transition to 3.5 E, not working with A&S

[KitchenerMom]

My Textbook DD started showing signs of being ready to transition to a 3.5 EASY when it was thrown off by her growth spurt a week after turning 3 months.   2 weeks later things are really wonky - Eating goes 4 hr/3.5hr/3hr during the day, and one 6 hours stretch followed by 4hr stretch on a good night.  Her A&S schedule changes everyday.  The only time I get a 2.5 hour nap is if the nap(s) before were 45 min.  The A is really only ever 1.5, even in the evening.

A Sample Day - if everything goes well, which it rarely does

8:00am - Eat
9:00am - Sleep
10:30am - Wake
12:00pm - Eat, followed shortly by Sleep
2:00pm - Wake
3:30pm - Eat, followed shortly by Sleep
5:00pm - Wake (not hungry)
6:30pm - Eat
7:00pm - Bath, desperatly try and keep awake for a bit longer to top up
7:30pm - Bed
12:00am - Eat
4:00am - Eat

Problem is, usually one of her naps ends up begin a 45 min (I can usually predict it too).  Sometimes her first A time is longer too, so I end up feeding her early at other times so she will have a long nap instead of waking up after 30-45mins hungry.  So, how do I manage to get her E & A/S balanced to an even 3.5 Easy?  I have already noticed that she is starting to associate feeding with sleeping which I am trying very hard to avoid.

[meltown]

what time doesshe wake up in the morning?if it is 8:00, the first A time is too short, I would try extending it a bit

[KitchenerMom]

I was wondering about that.  Sometimes though, she wakes up at 7am, but isn't hungry and waits until 8 to feed.  Anyway, over the last few days it looks like something is playing havoc with her sleep.  I'm guessing it is MPS, but could also be reflux.  She has been waking up more frequently at night more cranky than just being hungry.  I think the transition to a 3.5 or 4 hour EASY is going to have to wait a bit.