(((Huge Hugs))) hope he's gone to sleep for you
I'm sure you did nothing wrong! I'd become really obbsessed about it all (as you know as you've lived it with me
) and any bad days were like the end of the world, my dh did a very unflattering impression of me and my rollercoaster emotions the other night, It was funny,embarassing and also a bit of a wake up call.
So when Henry has woken up early from his naps the past couple of days I've really tried to go with it a bit, and if he's crabby and I have to hold him then sneak him into his cot when he's asleep so be it. He finds it much easier to be able to fall asleep independantly for the next nap if he's well rested, and I know he prefers to be in bed, it's just sometimes he can't manage it.
I've also had the 6-7hour stretches of him being unable to sleep or stay asleep and you feel useless I know, I don't know if it will help you, but I have just got into my bed (you'll have to use your own
) with Henry and had lots of skin to skin and just spent the afternoon there for feeds changes and any sleep he could manage. I think it helped because it stopped him becoming o/s by coming in and out and trying lots of different things to soothe him.
He falls asleep for bed like clockwork at 6.45pm every night atm, regardless of whether i've planned an erlier night due to a 6am wake up and bad naps, I've extended his bedtime routine again now he's more rested and reintroduced the bath and it's working much better, I can just pop him down and leave him and he goes off on his own. I can't wait until he can do that in the daytime
and he will! and so will Ethan, because his Mummy is working her backside off for him and one day it will all pay off, there will always be bad days but they will become fewer and fewer.
I was thinking yesterday about how it doesn't seem five minutes ago that my daughter was Henry's age, she's nearly as tall as me now (thats not hard though) and she'll be 11 in October
and is a constant reminder of how time flies, so relax, don't blame yourself for a bad day, just think of all the great ones to come! Christmas (if you celebrate it) when they first understand Santa and the 6 months of excitement before thier birthday, first time at the beach etc....think of all of those great days to come and the bad ones will pass a little bit easier.
xxx
Oh I saw a friend in town today with her brand new l/o 6lbs at birth and 2 weeks later going 4hrs between feeds
. don't you just love bumping into people like that! lol.