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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #360 on: December 05, 2008, 20:48:31 pm »
Hi Nik, Maya would not take her nap today until 12.40 but she slept for 1.5 which was pretty good, i had her in bed by 6.15 as i was unsure how to play bedtime and it took her til 7pm before she fell asleep she could have been Ut given it was only just over 4hrs when i put her down but she has become a nightmare at bedtime and taking so long to fall asleep and as i really dont know what to do with her at the mo i cant be sure that it is UT or OT that is the cause.
Average nap is 1.5 , 2hrs only tend to happen if really long A time 6.5-7 hrs.
Maya has not really got the concept of christmas yet, although she is really scared of santa and when ever i say Santa is coming she gets really upset! We have got her a pram, dolls and a kitchen as she is really into role playing at the mo, but we are actually going away for christmas this year , i just did not want to have a traditional christmas this year , I found it too hard last yr with mom not being there so i figured if we did something different i wont keep looking at her empty space, so anyway we are off to New York and then on a cruise round the Caribean for New Year so Maya will have 2 christmases then her bday is on 8 jan too so lots of celebrations.
lovr to you both,
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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #361 on: December 05, 2008, 20:56:12 pm »
Hello Rach!
Just popping in with some hugs. Hope things are ok!
We had a routine based on 12.5 hrs in 24 for ages (now it's all a bit of a mess cos of nursery, illness, teething and what have you ::) but give us a shout if you need help designing one.
So cute Nik that Lily is calling him 'the kwissmas man' LOL
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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #362 on: December 05, 2008, 21:18:36 pm »
Hi hun, thanksd for stopping by. How is Lois with her bgb, I noticed you have a new thread open, I hope she is not causing you too much trouble?  Anyway, I think I am going to have to look at a 12.5 day but I am unsure how to start or what to do so anyhelp you can throw at me, go ahead.
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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #363 on: December 06, 2008, 20:10:10 pm »
I think you will need some more help coming up with a routine that works with just 1 nap based on a 10hr night.  I just can't get my head round the A times, they scream WRONG to me cos if she is in bed by 8pm wakes at 6am then naps for 2hrs at 1pm-3pm thats a 7hr am A time and a 5hr pm A time.  Or you could do 12.30-2.30 nap giving 6.5hr am A time and 5.5hr pm A time.  I'm guessing here but I would think after a 6.5/7hr am A time then she will need a short pm A time to prevent bad OT by bedtime.

SO.... I'm gonna stand back and let someone else who has dealt with short nights come up with some ideas.  I'll still be here for support but I'm outta my depth with those length A times for one so young.


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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #364 on: December 07, 2008, 09:16:39 am »
Thanks Nik, for your continued support anyway.  I see your are having your own issues with Lily, tbh reading yuor post it was very similar to Maya at the moment, so I am wondering if we are having teething issues too, as looking back this blip happens every once in a while and i think it may be teething as she becomes really clingly, long nw's, ew's and i am not sure it is all down to OT.  Yesterday she woke at 4.30 for 10 mins and slept til 5.30 , napped at 11.20 for 2 hrs and I aimed for bed at 6.30 , which i know was short but i am still guesssing too! anyway she fell asleep about 7 after running rings round me, she chats also, and keeps telling me the same thing over and over, throws her dummy out asks for things, blah, blah, blah! and wont let me out the room.  She then woke at 3am!!!!! and was not interseted in going back to sleep, doing the same thing again she did not even seem a tiny but tired which cant be right after 8.5hrs, surely? she was not even crying only laughing, little sod! I gave her some meds just in case and we did take her in bed with us (very bad parents, but we had been out and neither of us had the energy to deal with her at this time) she still took around 1hr to go back to sleep which is pretty normal again at the mo, and she slept til 6am.  So the bottom line is I think I am going to be giving meds for a short time again to see if it makes any difference, as like i mentioned before when it has been this bad before it was down to teething as she normally settles herself at night for bed at least, although she is also coming on leaps and bounds with her vocab so maybe is is developmental too. Argghhghh , there is always something, isnt there? Hope you gets things sorted too.
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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #365 on: December 07, 2008, 13:39:15 pm »
cheers honey :-)


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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #366 on: December 08, 2008, 20:25:01 pm »
I am in a real mess guys, I have opened another post just incase someone can make any sense of this daughter of mine, hope you dont mind.  And if you have any more wisdom, please share. Thanks again for all your help, dont loose touch xxx
Rachael

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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #367 on: December 14, 2008, 09:13:20 am »
Sorry I've not kept up to date Rach. We've struggled with illness here for 2 and a half weeks so time has been scarce on here...
Lois' routine was:
bed 8:30pm
wake 6:30 or 7am
nap 1-3pm

...so 6-6.5 hrs A in am, and 5.5 hrs A in pm, and that worked really well for her. If she had a shorter A time in am she'd nap shorter and that was more problematic as THEN she'd get OT by bedtime, but with the long nap she didn't.

I will look for your new thread :-*
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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #368 on: December 15, 2008, 04:16:36 am »
Just out of curosity Vicku, does this mena that L can at max take only 10 hrs night sleep?

I am wondienrg if thats part of pupr problem thta DS cannot do mor ethan 10 hrs so since he goe sto bed at 7:30 he is up by 5:30, maybe I just need to shift his day a bit...
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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #369 on: December 15, 2008, 09:33:06 am »
Hi again Mukta :D Just been on your thread!
Yeah that's right, Lois NEVER sleeps more than 10.5 hrs at night, but sleeps throught the night great (unless ill/teething/travelling etc.) We custom made her routine to take that into account so that we could get rid of EWs after dealing with 5am wake ups for ages and having tried everything to get her to sleep longer, earlier bedtimes, various A times etc. She just seems to have lower sleep needs than average, but then again if all kids had average or above, the average wouldn't be where it is would it? :P 12 hrs in 24 is enough for her and she thrives on that.

Certainly worked for us but you never know as all kids are different... Could be worth a try though if earlier bedtimes hasn't helped. we do earlier bedtimes to catch up if she is seriously OT and/or ill and rarely then gets 11 hrs out of her, but if we keep doing it after OT is better we get EW again.
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Re: I am so desperate, can someone help me?
« Reply #370 on: January 08, 2009, 20:59:40 pm »
I ve been AWOL for some time, so have missed this...

How are things Rachel?  :-*
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