I am so desperate, can someone help me?

[RACHPEM]

I think Maya is def Ot with a cold coming too! she woke at 3am this morning and took around 1hr to get back off,she has not been that bad in ages.  She woke at 6am , but as she did not fall asleep until 7pm (although we tried much earlier) she still totalled 10 hrs!

[NiknLily]

poor little thing, hope she feels better soon x

[RACHPEM]

hi nik, Maya took a 2,5 hr nap yesterday (which finished at 2pm)but i still aimed for bed for 6pm and she fell asleep at 6.20 til 5.20!

[NiknLily]

oh bless, she must really need it, crossing fingers it continues after she feels better :-)

[nike]

Isn't that just the way, Rachael?  You just get on top of things and then they get sick, which puts you straight back to square one   Wishing Maya a speedy recovery and that all will be back on track soon xo

[RACHPEM]

She would not take her nap yesterday until 12 pm, I tries for a 6pm bedtime but she just chatted away to herself until 7pm when she finally fell asleep, woke at 4.30!!!! and really was not interested in going back to sleep, she was not even upset just chatting again'!!! I did take her in bed with me as i have woke with her cold, thanks maya! and just had not got the strength this morning. She acted like she wanted to be up for the day however after about 1hr she fell asleep until 7.16!!

[NiknLily]

wishing you both a speedy recovery.

have you got any calpol night? I used it for Lily's naps and nights when she just recently had a cold, it's bloody marvelous stuff, helps them off to sleep a treat 

just remember to give it to her 30min before you want her be asleep

 

[RACHPEM]

Thanks Nik, once again.  I messed nap time up today as she woke so late I was unsure when i should offer it, so I stuck with normal time and she was so obviously not tired.  She did fall asleep at 12pm but only for 1hr 15 which I think is UT for Maya rather than OT so I guess it will be early to bed tonight again. Any idea what I should be doing I am getting a little confused again, do I go with A times orclock times,

[NiknLily]

I'd be aiming to keep her on the schedule you where just on regarding A times, but if shes unwell then you really just have to play it by ear until the cold is better.  If you find her day has shifted up then go with that, use things to your advantage.

I am totally guessing here of course as Maya does like to keep everyone guessing about her sleep ;-)

[RACHPEM]

Tell me about it! I tried for an early night but she is taking FOREVER to fall asleep and not cryng either just wants to chat, if she tells me once more nannys dog has a poorly foot I will scream! anyway she finally fell asleep at 6.30 so could be worse. Tbh her cold does not seem to be bothering her, boy I have felt rough today though, actually wonder if I am turning into a man as it really has knocked me for six, lol. What is Lily having for christmas?

[Vicku]

Hi Rachael!
I hope your cold gets better soon! I've got a nasty one too with a cough and heavy chest, so in full sympathy for you...
Lois has an ear infection which explains her NWs and stuff.
LOL at turning into a man
Big hugs!!!

[RACHPEM]

Morning all! Thought early bed might do the trick, but no.  Nw at 12am for 30 mins, guess it is due to her cold but it is so hard to be sypathetic when it seems like it has been going on for ever,plus she was up at 4.45 for the day.  Apart from the odd occasion 10 hr nts still seem to be the norm.  I am so fed up.

[LisaM]

Hi Rachael

I have still been following your progress and was really pleased that things seemed to be heading the right direction.  Sure that this is a temporary blip as Maya is not well, it always seems to really muck their sleep up but sure it will get back on track.  Re the 10 hr nights being the norm - we definitely do have that with Grace - occasionally will do something else but mostly thats it and we have now accepted that that is how it is with her and have stopped trying to do anything other than make sure she has the opportunity to sleep as much as she will.  I think you have been getting loads of great advice and help from everyone on here but maybe she is always going to be like Grace and need quite a bit less sleep than other kids her age? 

I'm not sure you would feel the same as me but once I accepted it I stopped stressing about it all so much and so if she has a short nap (still common round here) I don't get really down about it like I used to.  I just think that I tried my best for so many months and it made no difference at all apart from made me feel like I was going round the bend at times, worrying and working out times and totals of sleeps etc.  Now I just am thankful if she does have an 11 hr night and an hour and a half nap - I enjoy the good sleep days and get on with the others!

Anyway, I hope things continue to improve for you.
Lisax

[RACHPEM]

Hi Lisa, thanks for still thinking of me.  I really dont mind 10 hr nights and dont mind short naps it is just these ew that are killing me, she woke at 4.30 again this morning, I persevered with her and after 1 hr she fell asleep until 7am.  If I could just get her sleeping til 6am I would be happy but it only happens short term and then we are back to 5 and earlier. As long as she slept til 6 i would not be so stressed with naps/timing of bedtime etc.  I just think i have her sorted and feel relaxed and then it blows up in my face and then i feel so disheartened, i cant even argue my case with hubby anymore as whatever i do it does not seem to work, so i really dont know how to play this now.  What should i do with nap today? if i stick to normal time i will prob only get 1hr 15 as she wont be tired enough, so should i go with A times today? and then whaat about bed? just for the record she napped 2 hrs yesterday from 11-13.10 but would not fall asleep until 7.15!!! Could someone just point my in the right direction again i am getting so mixed up again. xx

[NiknLily]

Hi rachel, sorry things are getting confusing again honey.  I don't have time at present to figure out what my plan of action would be, going to have a think about a routine based on a 10hr night.  What is her average total sleep in 24hrs? can we assume to aim for a 2hr nap? Also remind me how old she is now, I loose track 

made me laugh about turning into a man  mens colds are awful aren't they 

If you ask Lily what she is getting for christmas she will tell you "a pram" if you ask who is getting it she used to say Grandpa as thats who she asked for one from but we have been talking about letting father christmas know thats what she wants, so now when you ask her who is getting her pram she will tell you "that kwissmas man" 

how about Maya, has she been asking for things this year?