Sorry - can't stay away
Choffman - I have tried longer A times and it seems, and certainly for the past week or so, we've actually been getting a 1hr nap by shortening the A time to between 2hrs 35 mins and 2hrs 45 mins. Although saying that, the last 4 days that has not been the case! His napping is just so erratic, it seems that I get different length naps even if I do the same A time - one day it will give me a 1hr nap, another day it will give me a 25/30 min nap! That's why I'm kind of thinking, maybe we do need to try set nap times to see if that will regulate a few things i.e. nap time, nap length, morning wake up time, bedtime etc. Or perhaps that's wishful thinking!?
For example, this is a sample of naps we've got for the first nap using almost the same A time (sometimes he took longer to fall asleep that's why we get a slightly longer A time sometimes.
This week for example.
- 2hrs 35 min A time gave a 1hr 8 min nap (9.40-10.48)
-2hrs 45 min A time gave a 1hr nap (8.55-9.56)
- 2hrs 37 mins A time gave a 1hr 7 min nap (9.08-10.15)
- 2hrs 38 mins A time gave a 30 min nap (9.37-10.03)
- 2hrs 35 mins A time did not give any kind of nap at all until 4hrs 5 min A time! (9.08 - 9.38)
Now you can see why I am going truly crazy with these A times - I get different length naps even with the same A times (and this is just one week - it's like that EVERY week). Yes we had a few days with 1hr naps for the 1st nap but that was very short lived and I'm kind of thinking it wasn't the norm and something else may have been going on. It seems more often than not a 30 min nap is standard for him.
So yes, I agree, that for the most part Gus is programmed for a short first nap - but on the days that he does take a longer nap, should I just wake him at the 30 min mark to regulate things? It just throws everything off with the naps being so different in length from day to day. That part does drive me crazy as I have no idea what to expect from day to day. I can't plan anything really, as for example, he wakes up at different times every day, and the nap is at a different time every day and is a different length - so it's really difficult to be anywhere for a specific time as I want to make sure he naps before I go anywhere or see anyone! The wake up time from the 1st nap could differ as much as an hour. Do you see what I mean?
My friend wants to see me on Thursday morning next week, she asked "when will Gus have finished his morning nap" - I had to say "I have absolutely no idea, it depends on a) when he wakes up b) what time he goes down and c) how long he sleeps for. I know BW is all about a pattern rather that a set schedule - but I am guessing the majority of babies will have similar times that they do things each day? My days are just so incredibly erratic IMO and I find that VERY difficult.
I am thinking that the set nap times may work for us (or may not!) but I am not really sure what set times to aim for - since one day he'll wake at 5.30, another day at 6.00 or 6.30 or even 7.00 - there is no rhyme or reason! So, with the suggestion of choffman saying 10 and 2pm for naps - (I know it's only a suggestion) - I don't think those times would work as the majority of times he wakes earlier than 7am - so that would be a really long A time. I don't know how the set nap times would work because of his erratic wake up times in the morning? Does anyone have any experience of that - or, if I stick to some set times, would the wake up time regulate itself? I guess I'd have to have a set catnap too if he still didn't sleep long.
I've got to go and have dinner now but will continue my post hopefully after dinner as there's some more I want to say !
Right, I'm back. Today (I know I'm not supposed to be logging day to day) BUT today was very strange and I'm wondering if I did the right thing or not.
I "think" he slept through from 6.30pm last night until 5.25am this morning (DH thinks he woke at 12.00 and I fed him, but to be honest I can't remember doing that but may well have done - every night is a blur now!) Anyway, I fed him and he would not go back to sleep - and since he'd had 11 hours sleep we agreed that there was not much point in putting him back down to sleep. So, we got him up and I tried to put him down for his first nap at 7.59am (which would have been 2hrs 35min A time - but he just would not go to sleep, I got him up and tried again a bit later and it wasn't until 4hrs 5 min A time that he actually went to sleep and slept for an hour. Strange. I am not sure if it was the right thing to do to get him up at 5.30 or whether we should have tried to get him to sleep. I am really not sure why he took so long to go down for that first nap - but it was 1-1/2 hrs earlier than he would usually nap - perhaps that had something to do with it. He then had his next nap after only 2hrs A time (12.35-1.30) slept for 55 mins and then had a 30 min catnap in my arms from 4.00-4.30 and asleep by 6.45. Drove me nuts - just so erratic, no pattern whatsoever etc etc... A times didn't add up at all etc etc....
Anyway, anyone's thoughts on set naps times would be appreciated and suggested timings. I am not sure whether to wake him up at the 30 min mark for the 1st nap if he's not awake or whether that will open up another can of worms! I know certain books suggest 9.00 and 1.00 for set naps (9.00 nap is only 30-45 mins) and 2nd nap is 1.5-2hrs (but that's wishful thinking!)
I really don't know. I'm exasperated to be totally honest and I really don't know what to do about it. I feel I've spent so much time on this that I really don't want to say "to hell with it"! Doing away with my logs I don't think is going to help as if I am going to be asking for help, I'm going to be asked what I'm doing timing wise - you and other moderators and people on the site are going to ask me for a log.
Anyway, going to watch a film now to take my mind of things.