Help with husband

[nolejen]

Our 14 month old has been having sleep issues and it seems we get things worked out that something happens and we are right back where we started.  My husband travels a lot for work so I am the one who primarily deals with all this. HE is convinced the wi/wo is only encouraging J to keep crying at night. How do I convince him otherwise? He has read the book and seemed to be on board with me. But now he is wanting to CIO. And I just can't do that. But I am tired of taking one step forward and then 3 steps back.

[lesorl]

Hi there-

It's really frustrating when H's don't agree with sleep methods, especially if more often than not, they don't do the bedtime routine!

What does your day look like?  Can you post a typical routine? 

My lo is very spirited, so we've had to do more of a gradual withdrawl. 

The key is CONSISTENCY.  If you do the same thing every time your lo wakes, s/he will get the message.

Post some more info, and hopefully we'll be able to offer some advice.

In the meantime, hang in there-
Leslie

[nolejen]

Before daylight savings time, J was headed on what seemed like a good routine.

6:45-7 wake
10:30-12:30 nap
6:45 bedtime

OR

6:45-7wake
10:30-11:30 nap
3-4 nap
7:30 bedtime 

The times varied but that was the basic routine. We are smack dab in the middle of the 2-1 transition. So that doesn't help at all. Now with daylight savings time, he is up at 5am.

[lesorl]

i sympathize, my lo was up at 5:10am today.

his morning A time seems really short for his age (though not unheard of).  have you tried another nap around 3:30-4pm, maybe for 30 mins?

you tried pushing the morning nap 15 mins every few days until you're closer to midday? 

i think you need to bring bedtime forward on days he only takes 1 nap.  if he's up at 12:30pm, i'd put him to sleep by 6pm the latest, probably closer to 5:30pm.

[nolejen]

Today I was able to hold him off for 4 hours of A time in the morning before he took an hour nap. He is down for another nap nap after another 4 hour A time.

When we try for a catnap in the afternoon, he usually just screams and refuses to fall asleep.

I was worried about that early of a bedtime 5:30 or 6. If he sleeps 12 hours, that puts him up that early again. On another thread I started, someone mentioned that. That is why we were doing the 6:45. Some days it was 6:30 though.