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Offline munzle

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Dropping the dream feed - how?
« on: November 04, 2008, 17:26:37 pm »
My dd is nearly 8 months and we have been doing the dream feed intermittently for a few weeks. When she hit 6 months she started waking at night from hunger, so I fed her whilst we started on solids until she was getting more calories during the day. Unfortunately, through AP, a 5.30 feed remained. At first I thought she was really hungry (she always takes a full feed - never says no!) but I now think she was just using it as comfort and then a habit was formed. Over the last couple of weeks, we re-introduced a dream feed to see if it stopped the 5.30 wake but it didn't make a difference, as it was obviously not to do with hunger. So last night, I dream-fed her to give me the confidence to pu/pd, knowing that she was definitely not hungry. To cut a long story short, she went back to sleep without a feed until 8.30am, and wasn't even starving hungry on waking. So now I'm not really sure what to do about the dream feed as she should be dropping it around now anyway. How do you do it when bfing? Just bring it back by half an hour every 3 nights? My BW book seems pretty focused on bottle feeding when explaining how to do it. To make things a bit more complicated, we started using formula for the dream feed as my let-down was too slow and she wouldn't suckle long enough. Now I'm worried that if she's taking lots of calories at the dream feed, she won't take enough milk during the day and my supply will drop. I bf exclusively during the day. It's all so confusing!
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Re: Dropping the dream feed - how?
« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2008, 03:16:39 am »
I also would like advice on this issue!  How exactly do you quit the DF when you're BF?  The book (even "solves all your probs") isn't very helpful in describing how to do it... I feel like my daughter's sleep is getting a little disrupted by the DF now that she's older and more alert (10 mo.) but I have no idea how to quit except to continue moving the feeding earlier... I am not sure how to reduce the amount she drinks for the DF when I can't tell how much she's drinking anyway... any ideas?  Here's her routine:
wake up 6:00 am (we have to leave the house by 6:30 to be on time for work) and BF
8:00 am Breakfast (solids and some milk in cup)
short morning nap 9:00 or 9:30
10:00 snack- cup of milk (I pump at work)
12:00 lunch
1:00 afternoon nap (usually at least 1:30, sometimes 2:00 or 2:30 on really good days)
3ish snack- cup of milk and/or finger foods
5:00 dinner
5:30 bath, bedtime routine
6:00 bedtime, usually asleep within 15 minutes...
DF at 8:30 or so

Recently, she's been waking a few times at night and usually can get herself back to sleep quickly but sometimes my husband goes in to comfort (he's a tad anti PU/PD since he likes holding her, but he tries not to do that but instead comfort her in the crib/help her find her nuk.)  I've not fed her at night but one time so I don't think she's waking because she is used to getting a feeding.  We are really trying to avoic "accidental parenting"...
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Re: Dropping the dream feed - how?
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2008, 09:02:51 am »
I just brought the df earlier (from about 10.30 pm to 9 pm) in about 15 minutes increments.  I stopped at 9 pm and thought I would see if he woke - he didnt!  I also increased his milk solids in the day - yoghurt, cheese etc to compensate.  I was scared to stop but it seems to have worked!

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Re: Dropping the dream feed - how?
« Reply #3 on: November 16, 2008, 18:46:45 pm »
We stopped it a few weeks ago but I confess that we cheated a little and used formula. I made up 6oz and she only took 4, so the next night I made up 4 and she only took 3. One night she wouldn't take any so I took the hint and decided that she really didn't need it. We were going 12 hours at night, but then teething set in.....!
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Re: Dropping the dream feed - how?
« Reply #4 on: November 23, 2008, 15:33:16 pm »
We actually decided to drop the DF cold turkey.  She did fine the first night with a few wakings but overall able to fall back sleep without a feed, the second night she woke up screaming like she needed food.  I had already pumped so we fed her the expressed milk- 4oz and she settled back down within a few minutes.  The next night she woke up again- same time but settled herself.  Then... the 3rd night same.  Since then she's been making it from dinner sleeping 11-12 hrs. with no DF.
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