Ok, let's look at routine and then we'll talk about the feeds.
So, was that 1st nap really 3 hours?
Wowza! When you fix a napping problem, you really do!
The thing is, though, we try to limit daytime naps to 2 hours so that there is a clear distinction between day and night sleep. I think that will also give you a better rhythm to your day. 2nd nap looks awesome -- great timing! Now 3rd nap, I think you put your baby down a little too soon -- you've got 1 hour A time. Was that because he fell asleep eating, like you described? It's possible that the 45 minutes was just all he needed. In fact, since you already had FIVE hours of sleep that day, he may have be pretty rested up! LOL! He obviously got OT at the end of the day because he wasn't ready for sleep when you tried, and so that pushed him waaaaay too late with a 9:30 bedtime.
Here's how I think the day should go:
7:30 wake
8:40/45-10:45 nap
10:45 eat
12-2 nap
2:00 eat
3:15-4:15/4:45 or so sleep (I wouldn't expect much more than 1-1.5 hours of sleep at this nap)
4:45 eat
6:00 sleep for the night, believe it or not!
Then if you want, a 10 pm dream feed.
I looked back at my logs for this age, and girl naps are allll over the place! They never happened at the same tiem, they varied in length from 1-2 hours, and so the routine was highly variable. It's just how they are! As long as you are doing EASY, that's all that matters. There were lots of nights where he went to bed at 6 pm because that was the end of our day! Once they've had about 3 naps, it's best just to put them down for the nigth and let them sleep. It will be about another 4-6 weeks before you get into a more regular routine and bedtime becomes closer to 7/7:30 where it will pretty much stay, regardless of # of naps, until he's 2 or 3!
Now, for the eat. Hmmm. Does he actually want to eat when he wakes? It could be that if you waited a good 15-20 minutes and then fed then he might take the full feed at that point. I know most babies this age are screaming the house down for food, but it sounds like he's not doing that! you might also check out the Bottle Feeding board, and see if they have any ideas. Perhaps its a sign of something that I'm not aware of. My son had reflux, so we had all sorts of weird bottle behaviors, but that doesn't sound like what's going on with you.