Hello,
My DS is just over 4 weeks, and we have been consistently using the Shush-pat method for the last 2 weeks, but are not seeing any progress on helping him get to sleep for his daytime naps-in fact I would say that they are getting worse. Additionally, his night sleeping appears to be starting to unravel as well.
He is over 9lbs now and is on a 3-hourly routine, with cluster feeding in the evenings, a dream-feed, a 2ish feed and a 5ish feed and then back to 3 hourly starting between 6 and 7.
Regardless of the time of day, the following pattern prevails:
At the first sign of a yawn, he is taken into our bedroom, the curtains closed, he is swaddled, I turn a white noise maker on, and I hold him against my shoulder for a few minutes. Whereas initially he would be very calm at this point and maybe even with the 'glazed' eyes that Tracy described, he starts to scream when I go to swaddle him and can takes a long time (5-20 minutes) to console. Still, I can usually get him down after he is calm. My problem is helping him transition into deeper sleep. Even with my hands pressing on his belly and back (I generally am only able to get him to sleep on his side), I can't seem to help him through his 'jolts' which happen 20-30 minutes after he drifts off. At night, getting to sleep is super easy, but then he wakes up after 20-30 minutes and then screams for almost 40 minutes. He also can do lots of grunting and squirming and drawing up his legs with his eyes closed at any point in the cycle, which is very likely to wake him.
I guess I am wondering where I am going wrong with the shush-pat method, how long I should persist with it, and how much crying is normal for a baby trying to get to sleep? Without him getting any deep sleep we are falling into the trap of being exhausted during the feeds, and so falling asleep during the feed and not taking enough milk to last for 3 hours, which virtually eliminates any Activity time. I really need help getting him through that transition period.
Many thanks in advance for any help,
Seanna