I'm with Sher on this one - no way is your little man textbook for sleep. Not a chance
. If he were textbook we would have made one or 2 suggestions and within 3 days he would be on a good napping routine. Once every 4-6 weeks it would need a little tweak - simple as that.
All this 5 mins here and there is very touchy or spirited. J used to have his fair share of textbook when he was younger, but is very much spirited now. But always was with sleep. Today I had to go out at nap time - so he slept for 45 mins this am in the car. I know it will be a dreadful battle to get a pm nap out of him now, but that is the way these spirited ones are.
I think I've told you my opinion on 5am bottle before
but I don't think your DS is waking with hunger either. I think it is OT or at least routine issues. Now he may be a bit peckish by then, and unlikely to want to go back to sleep without a bottle. But that is different from genuine hunger.
Now - I understand that it is probably helping your household with him nodding back off after that bottle, but one of 2 things will happen. Soon he will stop going back to sleep, or soon he will be used to being fed at 5am and will continue to wake for it regardless of whether his napping has straightened out again or not. I've been in this trap with J many times - except it was harder with him as he didn't eat well, so I could never be sure it wasn't hunger.
What I have always done is start diluting the bottle to get rid of it almost as soon as I allow it to be restarted, so that he doesn't become reliant on the calories. Not sure if you have ever gone that route before though?
Tracey says you can do the toddler quiz at 10 months - which is when her baby book finishes - so give it a go and see!!