8.5 mo early waking. needs help!

[koe2moe]

I know it's true and I know he's right.  But until I get some sleep, I'm not fit to be out for anything longer than a grocery run.  I also enjoy being out immensely even it's family gathering with IL's haha. 

I should find some baby groups but I don't really speak the local language much, so it makes it hard to find something close to where we live.  It takes me 15 mins to get to public transport that brings me to town.  It's a drag. 

But then it's just me very tired. 

But I got good news!  DS woke at 6:15 this morning with no crying!!!   I was focussing too much on getting long naps for him.  Perhaps the key for now is to keep at 2 naps even when they were only 45mins.   But I woke up at 5:35! 

fingers crossed for today and we ARE going out for DS' 10mos hehe  Hopefully we won't mess it up too much  

Good weekend to you both!

[sherry lynn]

Don't worry about it messing it up   Just enjoy your LO and DH.   We don't get enough of these good days.

Congrats on the wake up. WOOHOO!!

[koe2moe]

It's indeed a great day out!!!    

Dh got DS to take a good nap.  I still don't know how he does it!!  And another 45 mins nap in the pram in town!!!

10 Oct

6:15  wake up A  3h27
9:42  S  1h15
10:12  A  3h18
14:30  S  40mins
15:10  A  4h20
19:30  S  

He's so nicely tired for his bedtime.  

If he starts to wake later and later (fingers crossed), perhaps I need to be careful with nap times?  How can I find out which nap is best to shorten?  

[*Liz*]

Looks good on paper Koe 

[sherry lynn]

Glad you had such a good day. I don't think you would want anything less than you had today. I wouldn't worry about shortening naps just yet. See if you can get a repeat of something like this for a few days first

[koe2moe]

Thanks Liz!!  

Sherry, thanks!!  

You're so right.  As if I could repeat it again....    With the last A being so long, we had EW again at 5:40am.  No crying at all.  Playing in crib happily for 20mins before I got him up! 

Just gotta keep at it!!  

[sherry lynn]

Yeah, I was a little worried about that A time. But, it's ok because you had a nice day

I hope he does well today. Do you think it might be that he gets more stimulation with DH? I know that was the case for us too. But sometimes DH would go a little overboard or put him in a little too late and he would get an OT nap too. Just trying to figure out the mystery.

[koe2moe]

I have a confession to make   We were out again but then we got too carried away having a good time with friends and DS had a 6h A time   Thunderstorm right now...  hopefully DS can sleep through it.

11 Oct
5:40  wake up  A 3h45 (we gave bottle and kept him in our bed, DS just playing, looking around, totally different to the hungry EW)
9:25  S  45mins
10:10  A 6h24 
16:34  S  45mins (no crying to go down)
17:20  A 1h55
19:15  S 

About the mystery, I really want to crack it, too.  One thing I know for sure is that DS can sit on DH's lap for a much longer time.  When he sits on mine, he gets fidgety very quickly.  DH thinks probably my legs or angle of my legs are just not so nice to sit on!!   DH can have quite a long time while reading his emails or news online and DS just sits there with him.  DS just won't do that with me.  I also can't carry DS and walk around the house too long as I get back pain very easily even with a wrap. 

DH does tend to go overboard and I used to get upset with him for fear of OT.  These past few days, however, DS seems to be doing better with the extra bit.  Or perhaps I always get DS too mellow and then carrying him around and that takes too long and it's like he's already had his rest, IYKWIM? 

I'll definitely let DS let his energy out and see what happens next week.  I actually wish DS would do hunger EW so we can give him a bottle to go back to sleep   But with all that tiredness, he ate super well tonight!  Perhaps I underestimated DS. 

Sherry, how's your LO doing now?

[sherry lynn]

Thati s a perfect example of 45 min being OT   I would get them too and you hear so much that 45min = UT. Not always

I hear you on the hunger EW

I hope tomorrow you get back on track with some decent naps like you had last week.

Lyle's doing ok. We haven't had any out right nap refusals lately. So, that's good

[koe2moe]

That's so true about 45mins OT nap!  This one big science project/experiment I normally call it, is just fascinating.

DS woke at 6:04!!!  YAY  so that's a good start, we tried the bottle because he was crying while I was holding him and then put him back to the cot but he was just playing, making sounds and started crying again 30mins later!  That's VERY good hehe

Glad that we're all doing better  

start of a new week... best of luck to us all

[sherry lynn]

YEY for a good start to the day. I LOVED 6am wake ups at this point    I would say, anything after 6am is acceptable.

Best of luck for the first nap.

[*Liz*]

It was about this age that I decided that 6am was perfectly acceptable  , and 6.30am was the target.

Anything later just seemed so unreaslistic  .

45 min naps are often OT for me as well - most of J's short naps were 37 minutes - and that was either UT or OT. Both 30 and 45 mins were very unusual despite what is always said on here.

They are all so different.

[koe2moe]

I agree 6 is acceptable, until end of daylight saving.  

Sherry,

your lucky wish really worked, at least for the first nap!!!

12 Oct
6:03  wake up A 3h45
9:48  S  1h15
11:05  A  5h32
16:37  S 57mins
17:34  A 2h20  in cot/ 2h46
19:54  in cot
20:20  S (there were a bit of banging and playing sounds   )

The first nap, I did it myself.  I was soooo happy that he could take a good nap with me.  Then the second nap was a disaster.  I did almost the same as the morning except DS got home with DH from a bike ride 14:30, 30 mins before nap time.  I gave DS a snack and let him crawl a bit but he wanted to sit on my lap and read a bit and played with some toys.  So he was quite calm, then I went through the same routine as I did in the morning.  When I put him down, screaming, which sounded like the UT scream.  

So I thought, alright, I'll take DS out for a walk so at least he could get a nap at a decent time.  When we're out the front door, it started raining!!!  Turned back, just the walk from the front door, back through the corridor to our own door, he yawned and almost fell asleep!!!  Of course, once we got home, he's wide awake!!  

Tried again to read to him, just wouldn't have any of it.  Kept wiggling out.  So once it stopped raining, I took him out for a walk again.  1 min away from home, he's already gone!  Perhaps after 1h15 nap, he could handle much longer A.  I was planning 4h already.  I got very frustrated again at the second nap.  But it's already much better than a few days ago.  

See what tomorrow brings...

LizJ, each child is so unique and yet so similar.  Fascinating.  And you've done it!!  I wish I could just go to 1 nap!  I most definitely have anxiety over naps.  Good that there are only 2 now. 

[sherry lynn]

I hope the wake up isn't too early. YEY for the success on the first nap

Maybe you've found a good A time. YIPPEE!!!

[koe2moe]

Yeah 6am wake up!!!!  DS cried a bit at 4:53 but fell back to sleep himself.  

He's very tired today.  First nap, he fell asleep in our morning walk!!!    It was only 3h15 A.  Since then he's just rubbing eyes, yawning...  he's a bit out of sorts today.  We'll see if he would take a nap at home. Or I have to take him for another walk...  

Now finally slept at 3h30 also.  Lots of whining...  It's only midday and I'm exhausted...  

did you have a good night and morning?