I have a friend who has a 3 yr old DS. He and his wife are divorced. When his son is with his mom he has no routine, no structure, no bedtime...nothing. He sleeps in bed with her, goes to bed WAY late, it's whatever is easiest for her. When he's with his dad (my friend) he has a bedtime routine and a bedtime and naps (he goes to day care and gets naps there). He's having a problem with bedtime. When they first divorced he was laying with his DS at night because it was a new home. It's gotten to be a prop and now his DS has a hard time going to sleep without him. When he wakes at night he gets up and will go find his dad and then go back to sleep but it's the going to sleep part that he's having trouble with.
How does he do wiwo with his son? I gave him the rundown and he said he's in there crying "daddy daddy I NEEEEEED you." and when he walks in to reassure him it gets worse. He hasn't gotten out of bed but just is crying and hysterical. I just want to make sure I'm telling him the right things to do...I sent my BWSAYP book to him but it isn't there yet so I can't even refer to that!!!
Anyone have any pointers or suggestions? I didn't know if it'd work because one week when he's with his dad he'll have a routine and the next week when with his mom he won't...but my friend said that DS's mom will go along with it because it'll be easier for her (she's all about what's easiest for her
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