We have been doing baby whisperer since 10 weeks and love it but naps are so hard and are getting worse. He turned 4 months yesterday and for the last week has been waking at night around 2 or 3 which I think is developmental and/or growth spurt. He is also the dreaded 45 minute napper, but I am ok with this, but what I can't take it that he cries until he can't breathe when being put down for his nap. We shush/pat which works but doesn't avoid the crying. Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated as I just can't take it anymore, seeing him so upset so many times a day. It is just making me think of quitting and nursing him to sleep, since at least I know this comforts him. He is a happy textbook baby unless it is naptime!
Our day looks like this: (I have put activity with eat since we start counting his activity time when he wakes up- he usually eats for 10 - 15 minutes EBF)
E/A: 6:00 (He is ebf so I feed him then put him back in his cot with his mobile and he plays then puts himself to sleep for this nap only)
S: 7:00
E/A: 8:00
S: 9:30
E/A: 10:15
S: 11:45
and so on like this until bathtime at 6:45 with cluster feeding, then bed at 7:15. He falls right asleep at bedtime and is just perfect. I dream feed him at 10:30.
Anything I can try?? I have tried putting him in his crib and he cries more, he hates pacifiers, we swaddle him... I don't know what to do and he is so unhappy at nap times!!!