Your GP won't let you see a ped? Or prescribe an epi-pen?!?!? Will he consider a nutritionist if her weight is "off" at least? I'm glad you stopped the dairy - it sounds like she's got a full-blown allergy to the dairy from the symptoms you're describing, not just an "intolerance," which I'd expect would be tummy troubles (poop, gas, pain) but not the red cheeks too. On the down side, I've learned that even the blood tests aren't 100% accurate; elimination diet is really the only way to be sure, but my issue with that is that even if we cut it down to 3-4 foods (hypothetically), what if Josie turned out sensitive to one of those? I mean, DH is sensitive to, of all things, CHICKEN, and many times allergies run in families, but that doesn't stop the docs from telling us to cut back to chicken and rice.

Yes, dairy can DEFINITELY cause behavioral issues in kids who are sensitive to it! It can totally mess with blood and brain chemistry, not to mention if it damages the gut lining then undigested food particles can pass directly into the bloodstream.

Leaky gut is nothing to mess with! BTW, artificial colors can also cause behavioral problems in kids sensitive to those (one lives here...

). Make sure you wait a good long time before trying dairy again to give any possible gut damage time to heal.

On the down side, soy can also cause issues of its own, above and beyond being its own allergen for many people. Have you tried rice milk? It's often fortified with calcium and some vitamins, and it has a sweeter taste than soy milk. We got the girls used to it by putting it on cereal, and Nat will CHUG the stuff given half a chance. There are also some calcium supplements available if nothing else is "acceptable;" J won't touch rice milk with a 10-foot pole unless it's hidden in a smoothie or cereal, but fortunately the girls can both handle yogurt, although not straight cows' milk.

It's so rough working around allergies to food; I know we have it easier than a lot of people, but man, it'd be nice sometimes to NOT have to keep such a tight rein on what goes into them!
