Help with 13-month old

[~*Nicole*~]

Gradual weaning is generally recommended for a younger infant OR an infant who gets really really worked up and doesn't seem to make progress with PU/PD or walk in/walk out.

Here is an in depth description of the PU/PD:

http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=69177.0

Here is information about WI/WO and Gradual withdrawal and choosing between the two:

http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=80750.0


I have had success with a combined approach. I would PU, comfort, calm, then PD say my sleep phrase and leave. If she was crying again I'd go back in PU, comfort, calm, then PD say my sleep phrase and leave. The reason I left was that I work full time and I did NOT want to get stuck inching away further and further out of the room for weeks or however long it would take to do a gradual withdrawal. This way I was responding to her needs, telling her she could sleep by herself, and removing myself so she could settle. BUT you can read through all of the information and see what you think would work best for you.

I think since she CAN settle and has settled alone you may find more success with a WI/WO type approach.

[Em703]

Okay - things seemed to be going well for a bit - but now they have fallen apart.  My DH is ready to give up on PU/PD and go with the "cry it out" method -which I am totally opposed to.  I'm not sure what went wrong.  Initially, my DH could get our LO to sleep in around 15 minutes but she wouldn't settle for me for hours.  Now, it takes us 45 minutes to over an hour to get her to settle, and she's up at least twice through the night needing the same amount of time to resettle -my DH slept on the floor in her room twice last week-  no one is getting much sleep!

We were at the point where we could lay her down and she didn't want to be touched or talked to and she would eventually fall asleep on her own with us in sight.  My mother-in-law was babysitting for us last week and she mentioned that she had been playing with her hair to get her to sleep.  I'm not sure if that has caused the set back or if it's something else?

Do we just start over, doing PD and back rubs?  Do we just gradually start working our way out of the room?!

HELP!  Need some serious advice to get my DH back on board!

[~*Nicole*~]

What is the most recent routine you've been following?
Is there anything else going on (besides your MIL visiting and rubbing her hair) like teething?

It is most likely a combination of things (and yes having your MIL play with her hair until she went to sleep is likely a contributing factor as that is such a nice way to drift off isn't it? but we can't do that all the time --like in the middle of the night) but it may be a UT/OT thing as well. Meaning she might be ready for more A time OR a cut in daytime sleep but we missed it and now is fighting sleep and getting overtired which leads to more fighting sleep.

Let's see what is going on.