Hi, thanks for being there!
I forgot to say, I do try and get her back to sleep most times but it usually only results in 5 or 10 minutes more nap, she always wakes up again. After the first nap, which is usually short, I tend to try and get her down again soon, assuming she is tired still so I don’t look for sleepy cues after the first nap, or at least I don’t notice any. I feel like this first nap is when I have a clean slate to observe what her cues are, I think this morning was a little early, even though it was the 2nd yawn, as she didn’t seem that sleepy. Maybe as she is used to being more tired she could handle a bit more A time than what I gave her. I’ve had only about one long nap a week for at least a month now.
Today was:
7.15 Wake and Eat
7.40 A, swaddled and wind down start at 8.10 (2nd yawn) 10 min wind down, lots of paci spitting out, didn’t seem that sleepy
9.00 Sleep
9.45 Wake and Eat (wow 45 min nap!)
10.15 A (we went out so the next bit is all in the car seat/pushchair)
11.30 S
12 Wake
12.45 E
1.00 S (fell asleep while feeding)
1.15 Wake
2.20 S
2.35 Wake (we got home)
3.30 S
4.20 Wake and Eat
4.50 A, swaddled and wind down start at 5.15 (1st yawn). She soon started screaming which continued all the way through till:
6.15 Change, Eat
6.40 S
We went out today, but I’m usually very mindful of what’s happening with her naps, working around her where I can, and being at home a reasonable amount so she can sleep (although I have to go out now and again or I’ll go mad, and my toddler needs the air!). She missed her last nap today, which doesn’t happen that often.
She was ok with patting a few times, that and a vigorous back rub have helped her in the early days when I held her on my shoulder. The rooms we spend naptime in both have blackout blinds in so they are reasonably dark, having said that the last time she took a long nap was in a quiet corner of the lounge! I was wondering about white noise but I don’t know how you stop this being a prop? The paci she got on day two, I am breastfeeding and she seemed to need to suck a lot. She always roots at naptime, I know she’s not hungry since I when I have resorted to feeding her it was so she could suckle. Obviously I don’t want to feed her to sleep so that’s why I’ve persisted with the paci, as she seems to need to suck to wind down.
When I put her down, it can take from 10mins to and hour to get her off to sleep, and if I’m honest I have started to put it off, as I’m thinking well, if she’s only going to have 30 mins anyway, have it towards the end of the 3 hour slot, then at least the E times can stay roughly 3 hours.
I used to agonise over my son's sleep and now he sleeps great, but only because I put the time in I think. I promised myself I wouldn't put myself through the worry again and here I am! It's SO frustrating!