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10.5 month old - sometimes sleeps but normally doesn't
« on: January 20, 2010, 21:56:11 pm »
Hello,

I have a 10.5 month old who has slept through the night (7pm to 6:30am) maybe 5 or 6 nights since he was 6 months old but more often than not is awake anything from once to six times a night.  I have not fed him during the night, except for a dream feed (now dropped), since he was about 6.5 months old and he settles himself to sleep for his daytime naps and when I put him down at night time.  He naps well during the day having two sleeps totalling 2.5 to 3.5 hours.  The timings of his naps is dependent on when he wakes but typically, he sleeps from 9am when I get back from the school run for up to 1.5hours and then again at 12:30 for between 1.5 and 2hours.  He then goes to bed at around 6:45.  A pretty model baby except for night!  Night times are really variable.  Sometimes, he is awake for a couple of hours during the night, sometimes he wakes up every hour from around 10:30 but will settle back to sleep fairly quickly, sometimes he sleeps until 4:30am but then won't settle back until 6:30am.  I did pick up put down at around 6.5 months which did improve things - I was previously just feeding him when he woke.  He then was happy for me to settle him with a hand on his cheek until he went to sleep and now I often only have to say shhh-shhhh and he will return to sleep.  However, whatever I do doesn't seem to help him go to sleep any quicker than he would otherwise want to but does keep him calm.  If I'm not there, he just screams after a while. 

I can't get to the bottom of why he won't sleep.  Most people seem to suggest that if your baby can settle themselves to sleep, is napping well and isn't feeding during the night, then sleeping through will follow soon after.  However, it has been months since my LO has been able to do this and there is no sign of him sleeping through.  Please can someone help?!!



 

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Re: 10.5 month old - sometimes sleeps but normally doesn't
« Reply #1 on: January 21, 2010, 01:29:23 am »
Hi there, he might just be napping TOO well :-)  They don't need as much day sleep at 10.5 mths and it looks like he is telling you that he wants to play at night.  I would recommend starting to cut one of your naps.  You need a good balance of A time - they need between 3 - 4 hours at this age, and naps.

Have a read here:
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=163278.new#new

If you want to post your routine, we can take a look.
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Re: 10.5 month old - sometimes sleeps but normally doesn't
« Reply #2 on: January 21, 2010, 01:50:47 am »
My DD was a very long Nap sleeper as well and I think with cutting the naps have helped a bit.  I can count on one hand the amounts of time she has STTN and the NW have gone down to once a night with shorter naps. The wonderful ladies on this site are helping me out.
I'm working on a 3.45hr A time and the morning nap is 45mins long.  I have to wake her.  The afternoon nap is 1hr and 30 mins. She usually wakes on her own for that.  Her bed time is at 630pm or so. 
My DD would wake nearly every 2hrs and stay awake for about an hour or so.  Waking only once is a big improvement for us and it makes me alot happier.
Hope this helps any if not I'm sure the ladies can help you more.


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Re: 10.5 month old - sometimes sleeps but normally doesn't
« Reply #3 on: January 21, 2010, 20:00:59 pm »
Many thanks for the advice - I will try reducing his nap times with a view to getting him to have one nap.  Last night I also tried the 30 second idea that was posted elsewhere (ie going in when he starts screaming, saying night night and then waiting outside the door for 30 seconds before going in, starting counting again if he stopped screaming for one second or more) - and it seemed to work!! :)  He woke at 4:30 and started to scream at around 5am so I went in gave his head one stroke, said night night and went out (with much screaming).  However, I then only had to go in once more and he was asleep by 5:45 which I'm not sure he's ever done before!  Hopefully, by carrying on with this and reducing nap times, we might get somewhere!



   

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Re: 10.5 month old - sometimes sleeps but normally doesn't
« Reply #4 on: January 21, 2010, 21:28:53 pm »
Hi there, she likely won't be able to do one nap for quite a while, usually they transition by 12 - 18 mths, it really depends on the LO and it's a long time getting there normally.  But if you shorten one nap now you will likely see some results.
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Re: 10.5 month old - sometimes sleeps but normally doesn't
« Reply #5 on: February 09, 2010, 19:55:32 pm »
Hi,

I've tried the reduced daytime sleep for just over two weeks but it doesn't seem to have improved my LO's night-time sleeping so I have a very tired baby on my hands!  I tried reducing his sleep to between 2.25 and 2.5 hours a day so 30 to 45 in the morning and 1.5 to 2 hours after lunch.  However, I fear he is now really, really overtired and I'm not sure how to reduce the overtiredness without resulting in really long daytime sleeps again which could then result in a knock on effect of meaning he is awake at night because he isn't tired again.

I have upped the daytime sleep to near enough 3hours.  This is the current schedule I am trying him on:

Wakes: Generally 6:15 but sometimes 5 or 5:30.
Eats: 7-ish Milk and brekkie
Sleep: 9 to 9.45/10am (I sometimes shift this later if he sleeps later in the morning but he can rarely last beyond 9:30)
Awake:
Eat: 12.00 - lunch
Sleep: 12:30 to 2:30
Awake:
Eat: 5.00 - tea
Eat: 6:15 - Milk
Sleep: 6.30 (this is earlier than it used to be because he is so tired)

Does anyone have any ideas?

Thanks