Hi there,
We are still in the room singing when Hayden is going to sleep. I really want to leave, but he is teething right now (and has been for over one month) so I keep waiting and not doing anything. But I have the other problem that he is extremely active in his crib, and I am not sure why or if some kids just need this before they can go to sleep. There are so many moms that tell me how the WD and then put the baby down, and then the LO just turns around and goes to sleep. Maybe my LO just can't do that, he is pretty spirited regarding sleep (textbook otherwise).
Our WD routine looks like this: reading some books on my lab (if he isn't too restless), walking around the room, going into the bedroom, into the sleep sack, turning off light and white noise on, singing and swinging in my arms, down to bed.
He is calm in my arms, snuggling on my chest and sometimes even closes his eyes for a bit. Then I put him down, he rolls to his side and seems to be ready to go to sleep but 1-2 seconds later he is on his belly and on all four trying to crawl or pulling himself up. I put him back down and leave him (still singing), he goes back on all four and etc. We repeat this a lot and he takes at least 20min to fall asleep. Often he gets really excited and kicks his legs and swings his arms like crazy. I know he is tired, because on the belly he burrows his face into the mattress. He has been doing this for more than a month, pretty much since he became really mobile and learned to pull himself up. He knows how to get down by himself.
I have thought about several things that could be wrong but haven't had any success yet. First I thought maybe he isn't tired enough before bed so I left him crawl until short before bedtime and did the WD routine relatively short. That helped for 2 nights and then it was back to the usual, but I am still doing this.
I also thought maybe I am distracting him, so I stopped singing and tried to hide but he stands up and looks around (same when I leave the room, he thinks its playtime then). I got him to sleep a couple of times w/o singing but was still there.
I also thought maybe he is UT since he had a pretty short A time of 3 hours. So we started to gradually increase it to 3.5hrs. It didn't make much of a difference. I also believe that often he is tired before since he has pretty bad nights, so often he will go to bed earlier.
Here is our ideal routine:
W: 7am, bf
E: 8am (solids)
S: 10-12, bf
E: 1pm (solids)
S: 3.30-4.30, bf
E: 5.30 (solids)
S: 8pm
He often has 2.5-3.5hrs of naps, and a 13hrs day. This routine varies +/- 30-60min. His first A time is shorter than the others right now, but we did have them all at a 3hrs lenght and that didn't work either. He really does get tired at around 3hrs in the morning, I don't want to make him OT.
Does anybody have an idea of what is going on?