1 nap still not working

[*Becky*]

Jo, we are in a very similar place to you. At the moment even an hour would be good but I think there is a lot of truth to what Martina is saying. Hope that good nap was a sign of things to come x

[Tweakster]

Agree with all these fine ladies too BUT I also look at my kid who does a great nap now (after months of pure crap) and only gives me short nights, always has, no matter what we do.  So sometimes you don't get both, long naps and long nights.  However, I would still proceed with your slightly longer A time and see what he does.  1 hr 50 is better than 1 hr 20 - but not if it starts cutting into your nights :-)  It's a fine balance between what they need to be bearable during the day, but also get a decent night.

But I certainly hear you on the not having any Y time, at least now my Y time is at work lol.  Not quite the Y time I had in mind but hey.

[*Jo*]

yes i was wondering about how the nights would go, when i used to extend his naps to two hours wiht patting i would still get a 12 hour night, however last night i had 4 NW's and an 11 hour night but i think hes coming down wiht a cold, i could hear him struggling to breathe on the monitor all night and hes been sneezing and coughing alot so thats a whole other ball game! will see what todays nap does

[Tweakster]

hes been sneezing and coughing alot

I blame the airplane! lol

Yeah you can't predict or really have any expectations when they are ill.  Poor wee man.

Let us know how it goes.

[*Jo*]

so yesterday we got a 1.5 hour nap so its dropped back again and then a 10.5 hour night!!! 6am!!! Im so freaking tired, i feel like this hasnt really been a holiday for me at all, i have a tired headache, theres just no time in the day for me to actually rest!

so what should i do today? stick to 5 hours 20mins again or go to 5.5 hours or go shorter seeing as he had a shorter night (i have found this doesnt always affect him too badly but he is at the beginnings of a cold so that could affect him)

I dont even have time to go to the toilet! the place were we are staying is not baby proof at all so I have to watch him with everything, so i need to wait till he goes down for a nap to go to the toilet if you know what i mean. the people dont have kids here so when he woke at 6am he was only moaning, loudly, so i couldnt leave him to moan and whinge like i do at home, as there bedroom is right next to his and of course all i heard about this morning was how he was awake at 6am and i was thinking "yeah but im the one that got up to him, at least you got to go back to sleep till 7am"

grrr i just snapped at him because i need to go to the bathroom and i am gonna have to wait 3 more hours to go and im getting upset.....

[babybarr]

Oh Jo, I'm sorry things are a bit all over the place.  Can the people you're staying with mind him for a bit?

I reckon stick with the usual.  I would've said longer if he'd had a good night and no cold but given he's not quite right I wouldn't push it.

Thinking of you hun

[*Jo*]

unfortunately they work so they cant watch him, i did actually go to the movies last night while the husband stayed home and watched Caleb, but Caleb was asleep so i had no worries there. i feel kinda selfish now, i mean at least i get a good night out of him most nights, its just that im so shattered by the end of the day i just crash, hes actually a really good boy i just dont have the energy to play with him and i think he gets bored and whinges which then gets on my nerves and i start to get resentful of the fact i cant even do the dishes without him hanging off me moaning. i am just hoping for a really decent nap out of him today

[koe2moe]

hugsss to you Jo.  After months of EWs, NWs, and short naps, we are now at 2h nap and probably 11.5h night but NWs due to illnesses and probably about to be sorted as DS is almost recovered.  But then molars... argh..

What I noticed from DS was not just A time but the kind of activities he does.  He needs to get his energy out and since he started walking, he gets nicely tired and I think that's how he started taking longer naps. 

Would that be something application to Caleb?  I know the feeling.  I'm so sleep deprived all the time that I came down with 3 viral infections in 2 weeks!!   Still trying to recover.  Hugssss to you

[janecharlotte]

Sorry to hear of your troubles- sounds like us during the day too.

[babybarr]

Glad you got a bit of me time.  Fingers crossed for a good nap.

L xx

[*Jo*]

he woke up at the 50 min mark, took me 10mins to pat him back to sleep and he slept a total of 1 hour 20mins, then we had a 10 hour night, so up at 6.20am, im not happy, in fact i was crying over his cot this morning about it,im SO tired

[babybarr]

Oh honey I am so sorry and wish there was something I could do to help.  Do you reckon you could go for 2 naps - would he do that?  Even an AP in a pushchair (I assume you have a pushchair with you?)

[*Jo*]

no point today, we fly out tomorrow morning and have to be up at 3.30am! so will be giving him an early night, hes fallen asleep now at 5 hours A time, exhausted.

[*Jo*]

well he slept 1.5 hours, and hes in bed asleep at 6.30pm, gosh i cant wait to be home again, i miss my husband so much.

[koe2moe]

oh Jo!!  Safe trip home and I hope that your DH can give you some help and things would improve with Caleb.  hugssssss