Hi
Thank you soo so much for your reply. Firstly, I want to start by saying that the CIO method has already stopped. Only have 3 naps of trying that, I went in to pick him up with tears running down my face and his. No thank you...it just doesn't feel right or natural. Thank you for the extra support on this issue. I feel terrible that I even attempted that method and only hope he hasn't lost his trust in me just yet!
To answer some questions:
He is 2 months today
His daily routine is approx. like this:
E 6am wake/feed and continue to feed every 3 hours from here on until his bedtime.
A times are about 1 hour before he starts his first yawn. Sometimes earlier when he naps short..which is usually the case lately. Sometimes about 10 minutes longer.
S 45 minute naps and then starts to stir and fuss...finally cry. I go in and replace pacifier...may work occassionally after 3 tries. He often fights his way out of the swaddle and his hands interfere and he starts sucking them and keeping himself awake.
6pm Cat Nap..sometimes attempt this to be bedtime if he has had no sleep during the day.
7pm Bedtime
Diaper, PJs, just started yesterday to read him a book, bath/massage occassionally right now.
8pm Feed to sleep, burp
12am NF 1
2am NF 2
3:30/4am NWing...won't resettle until 5/5:30am
Nap routine is about after an hour of activity or a bit more, swaddle and bring to nursery. Craddle in my arms and cover his eyes with soother in his mouth. Drowsy, put down in crib.
After 45 minutes usually wakes. If lucky, will resettle after a few times of replacing soother and continues nap for 1-2hrs total.
His bedtime routine is basically the same and naps except I add in PJ's and occassional bath/massage and now 1 book.
I am breast feeding. I have an abundance of supply. My let down is very active/fast. He gulps throughout his feeds from me unless he is very relaxed. I have read the posts on this issue and am trying to help him with it. I find pumping in a bottle makes for a better feed....which I do in the evenings and night feeds.
He takes 5-6oz in 10-15 minutes for one breast per feed.
5 oz bottle of pumped milk in night feeds.
His NWings are midnight, 2am, 4am, 6am
He is usually tired at his midnight waking
He is usually hungry and then resettles at his 2am waking
He is stimulated and fussy at his 4am waking and will not resettle. Appears OT as his arms are flaying and his eyes are wide awake and he is fussy.
He starts his NWings with fussying and then continues to crying. Never a Mantra Cry at night except for the 4am waking when he has been up too long...around 4:30am this starts.
I have tried the following to soothe him: pacifier, cover face lightly and whisper shhh in playpen, hold and rock to sleep covering his face.
Our A time is about 1 hour - 1 hour 10 minutes. We usually feed, diaper, lay him on his play matt, sit him in a bouncy chair and allow him to observe his surroundings with his older sister playing around him, sing some songs, laugh and converse with him.
No developmental issues.
His prop is a pacifier.
No lovie...yet!
He had wind/gas issues that seemed to have passed. This started at about 3 weeks and lasted for 3 weeks. He may have some minor reflux issues as he spits up lightly when burping at times.
His behaviour during his A time, is usually content and observant. He will start fussing and whining when he is getting tired. Sometimes fussy and OT so crying crying.
I am hoping it's not a breast feeding problem as it doesn't make sense to have to supplement if the lactation consultant said I have a lot of milk. She said he takes a lot from me quickly.
Something I noticed, while feeding him today....I fed him my breast for about 8 minutes. He appeared finished with feeding. I offered him formula a little bit after that and he drank 2.5 ounces on top of my feed. Perhaps I am cutting his feeds too short from me, when he appears finished. The lactation doc said he takes 5 oz from one breast in 8 minutes. At that time...a few days ago, he appeared not to want anymore..but perhaps he does need a bit more?? He has a tough time feeding from me with my fast let down. I spend a bit more time with him when I pump in a bottle and he takes it much happier and a bit longer.
Again...with CIO...NEVER AGAIN! Promise...already have lifetime guilt for doing that only 3 times.
Thank you again so much,
After this long novel of a reply, I hope we can find a solution,
Natasha
