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Offline mjn7678

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HELP: Just started Need Advice
« on: May 22, 2010, 14:02:31 pm »
I'm so thankful to find the BW....it has already started getting us back on track.  my LO is 8 months old today. he is EBF. i pump four times at work and nurse when i get home. i feel like his feeding is all over the place so i'm getting him on EASY. he currently eats every 3 hours, so i'm moving that to four hours. he also has gotten into the habit of snacking at night bc of accidental parenting and only being able to go to sleep nursing. he was at the point of waking every hour. last night with pu/pd, he was in his crib for 7 hours wihtout having to be fed or go in our bed! so big for us!!!  the problem is, he isn't really into the 7 am feed.  i'll nurse him a little efore getting out of bed at 6:30 but the sitter will usually give him a bottlearound 8:30. i want to change that. i'm worried about my supply and worried he won't get a good nursing session in at 7. if i cut out all snacking sessions atnight, do you think he may be more likely to nurse well at 7?  or, do you think i should give him a bottle at 7 so i know he is getting enough. i know how important it is to fill them up during the day since the goal is to go all night without eating.  ugh..i'm so worried my supply is going to plummet!...
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Re: HELP: Just started Need Advice
« Reply #1 on: May 22, 2010, 14:40:35 pm »
Hi, and congratulations on your BW success so far!  I've only been a baby whisperer for a few months, so I'm sure others will have great advice for you.  Also, my LO is much younger than yours.  Both of my girls were snackers, and I can tell you the problem is MUCH easier to solve when your LO is a baby!  My preschooler still wants to snack all day and we have trouble filling her up so she can stretch to her next mealtime!  But with the baby, we fixed it in one day.

To your question, yes, I think by eliminating night feedings, your baby should have a good appetite when he wakes for the day, whether that's 6:30 or 7 or whenever.  You don't have to start his day at 7; that's just an example the book gives, because it's pretty common.  But lots of moms start their EASY routines at 6 or 6:30 or 7:30 or even 5:30; whenever the LO typically wakes up and wants to start his day.  An 8-month-old should easily be able to go all night without eating; that doesn't mean he will want to, especially if he's used to nursing at night for comfort.  You could try giving him a full feed at 6:30 and then telling the babysitter not to feed him again until 10:30?  The first time you stretch his feed to 4 hours, be prepared for some crying, because he's not used to that, but right away he'll start taking more milk at each feeding and he'll be able to go longer between feeds.  Getting my LO on a routine was a lifesaver for me, because I was BF every 60-90 minutes and it was driving me crazy!

By 8 months your milk supply should be pretty well established, so I don't think this will adversely affect it at all.  But if you notice your supply diminishing, you can pump more often; it doesn't mean you have to feed more often.  Let us know how it goes!
 

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Re: HELP: Just started Need Advice
« Reply #2 on: May 22, 2010, 17:42:19 pm »
thank you so much! it seems so much easier when you have a plan in place rather than nurse constantly bc you dont know what they need. i came up with this schedule as a goal of mine.....would you mind telling me if it looks ok? thanks...all times are approxmate.
GOAL
6:30 AWAKE
E  7:00 NURSE
    8:00 BREAKFAST
A 8:30-9:10
S 9:30-11:00


E 11:00 (bottle)
   12:00 (solids)
A 12:30-1:10
S 1:30-3:00

E  3:00 (bottle)
    5:00 (solids)
A  5:30-6:10
Bedtime bath, nursing, book
S 6:30-7:00
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Re: HELP: Just started Need Advice
« Reply #3 on: May 24, 2010, 09:25:39 am »
Hey gals - I am just following along here, you are getting excellent advice from Daylene.

Welcome to the boards - it makes me so happy that both of you have embraced BW and are finding it helpful.

I will point you towards some sample routines here that you might find useful http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=164253.0

Also, my DS doesn't like to feed straight after waking up...we have to wait between 30 mins and an hour before he's ready - he's just wired that way. However, the best way to know what your LO is up to is to follow Daylene's advice.

I will keep following your post too

You're doing great!



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Re: HELP: Just started Need Advice
« Reply #4 on: May 24, 2010, 10:47:05 am »
thanks so much chicane! huge progress last night. self-soothed to himself to bed at 6:50 and slept 5 straight hours. no pick up/put down needed!  he didn't do too bad the rest of the night, but then woke up for a while around 4 as i tried to put him back into bed after feeding.  he was then up for an about an hour crying, eating, trying to fall asleep,etc.  now, i don't know what to do. he usually gets up at 6:30..now its almost 7....do i wake him up to keep on schedule???

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Re: HELP: Just started Need Advice
« Reply #5 on: May 24, 2010, 18:06:02 pm »
Hey! Great news sounds like he's getting the hang of it. As far as waking him...that's the million dollar question. Some people would say wake him to get on a good EASY routine but my personal opinion is if LO has had a tough night I let him sleep in a bit..maybe 30mins. or so. At this age they can usually deal with a 30min to hour variation on their day without too much trouble...but really you need to follow your gut on this one...remember you can always fix a OT or a UT nap by adjusting the following A time (if OT nap shorten A time if UT nap lengthen by a little bit) Let us know how you get along xx