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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #135 on: August 03, 2010, 11:49:33 am »
Thanks hun. :-*

Well we haven't had chance to do earlier nap.  Cos I'm not at work DH's alarm is set later so DS has been sleeping in till nearer 7am.  So I have kept his nap at 11.30am or a tad earlier.  I've been aiming to get him into bed by 6.20pm and he has been dropping off better, which at least that helps.  I just feel bad cos he is spending so much time in bed but not actually sleeping iyswim?

I am going to do early nap if we get earlier waking.

Have you checked out the forums at mothering.com? Usually a bit too all natural/crunchy for my taste but they are an excellent reference for some things. And they have a "finding your tribe" area which might be of help to you in finding a good local paed chiro?
Thanks - will take a look
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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #136 on: August 03, 2010, 11:50:52 am »
what are his NW like at the moment? Are they any better with him waking a bit later?

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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #137 on: August 03, 2010, 12:01:43 pm »
In a word... NO!  The thing is I think if I can get a lot more sleep into him for say a month then maybe he'll catch up and then things may even out - or that's what I'm hoping.  Something he *appears* to be doing a little more of, which may or may not be a good thing, is making up for a bit of lost sleep at nap time. 

Normally you see if he did a longer nap I'd do a slightly later bt but I'm now just aiming for early regardless - what do you think?  Dont get me wrong though we're still *not* getting 2/2.5/3hr naps :P
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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #138 on: August 03, 2010, 12:09:13 pm »
i think the early bedtimes are still the way to go,whatever will get more sleep into him i reckon!!!!!!!!

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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #139 on: August 03, 2010, 12:17:29 pm »
Hey Laura, how are things?  What did they find out with the sleep-o-meter?  thinking of you all.



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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #140 on: August 03, 2010, 12:19:17 pm »
Koe - thanks hun, I think the update is about half way down page 9.... :(
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« Reply #141 on: August 03, 2010, 12:23:55 pm »
I agree about the early bedtimes x




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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #142 on: August 03, 2010, 13:11:50 pm »
It's not really letting it go, it's taking a much needed break for some perspective and regrouping - even the troops in war draw back on a regular basis!  We aren't giving up and neither are you.  But you are doing everything you can as it is so really don't beat yourself up Laura, you truly have your boy's best interests at heart and that's all anyone can ask.  I do believe the doc has a point that he will grow out of it at some point, I know it's no consolation and doesn't help you now, but at least it can help to know this situation is temporary.  Also he's thriving and generally happy, it's the same with Finn, he could be sooo much happier if he had better sleep - we've seen the difference in him, but alas it's not in the cards just now.  He does what he does, and we are working against genetics at the moment.

We're here though, if you need to run anything by us, large or small.  It makes me sad that you feel your people IRL are abandoning you, this is when you need them the most!

I don't want to give you the wrong end of the stick here, but I wonder if some CBT might be helpful for you, just so you can better deal with this chronic illness and sleep disturbance issue?  Is there some kind of support group for parents of kids with his immune disorder?  Might it be helpful to check with those parents to see if sleep is wonky in their kids too?  Hugs Laura, you are really brave.
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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #143 on: August 03, 2010, 15:17:26 pm »
You must be really physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted after this all!! I'm so sorry!!! :(

My DD has numerous health problems and I can totally understand you feeling like giving up. I took about a month (when it was at its worst) and just put it all out of my mind and tried to deal with the horrid (sleep deprived) behavior the best I could. I did everything I could to get more sleep into her while only relying on cues. We got to a point where her sleep was so bad bw didn't work for her. I had to go to the primal basics on a daily basis, trying to figure out what she needed that day. Every day was different b/c every nap/night sleep was different.

I was at a huge breaking point as I'm sure you are as well.

Please don't give you, but just give yourself the peace to take a step back. It is what it is for now. I know that's absolutely NO consolation at ALL! But me accepting this, is what helped me make it through that dark time. Wendy is so right about the support group if available!
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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #144 on: August 03, 2010, 18:51:48 pm »
Is there some kind of support group for parents of kids with his immune disorder?  Might it be helpful to check with those parents to see if sleep is wonky in their kids too?
I only know of 4 other mums across the globe on a forum who's LOs have the same condition.  I asked them about sleep already and all of their LOs sleep loads.  Like one boy Oliver's age 15hrs a day.  It seems to be the same for others with different immun issues, they *tend* to need more sleep than most and tire easily.

I don't want to give you the wrong end of the stick here, but I wonder if some CBT might be helpful for you, just so you can better deal with this chronic illness and sleep disturbance issue?
When I was trying to sleep last night I wondered if I should get some sort of counselling myself.  I think my endometriosis is back too so I have to book to see my GP anyway and am going to see what she says.  I don't want to feel like this but I do have a lot of stuff I have kept in for a long time, mainly cos I had to deal with a baby in and out of hospital.  I still really struggle seeing tiny "healthy" happy babies and feel upset that I missed out on all of that.  I still struggle with meeting friends who have children who can go swimming and to toddler groups etc.  I know I probably need to deal with this but it's hard to talk to people who don't actually *know* how you feel.  Someone who knows what it's like to have a chronically ill child - iyswim?

I know aI need to go with it for a few months but I feel so bad that he can't sleep. :(
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Re: Just me... again...
« Reply #145 on: August 04, 2010, 00:32:47 am »
Sweetie you can't make him sleep, you are doing absolutely EVERYTHING you can and you are giving him lots of opportunities to sleep if and when he can, that is the best BEST BEST thing you can do for him.  He is resting loads and he is doing well because of all the love and care you are putting into him..

Hugs that your health is not great at the moment, don't forget to look after you -  you are important too xxxxx

Huge huge hugs sweetie, we are always here for you
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