Just me... again...

[Tweakster]

I was dubious about ear plugs too but the foam ones you barely know they are in and they do a world of good for blocking out the world.  I had to use them when I was pregnant and we had the world's worst and noisiest neighbours.  I think the switching off thing is a great idea - he rarely needs you in the night but there might be that odd occasion that something is up that needs attention, but only 1 of you need be on guard so to speak.  Gives the other a chance to get a more restful night.

[katie80]

Earplugs are only uncomfortable if you haven't got them in right  

Yep, this is what I've found.  There were many times in college I tried them, but never got them in right and thought they were not helpful at all.  But, we now use the foam ones, and if you roll them up kind of tight and hold your ear open to insert them, then they expand once in your ear and do block out the world.  And when you really want to sleep and not hear things, they are great!

Just for your own health and mental wellness, it might be worth a try.   

[babybarr]

Thanks all, thanks Lan too for your help.

I feel like I'm missing something at bt.
Today
Wake
5.30am (again!)
nap 11.20-12.40pm
bed 6.35 asleep 7.05pm

Am I just missing the bedtime sleep window do you think?  Should I be aiming for nearer 6.15pm?  Can't do much before due to DH getting in.

[LucySol]

Thats worth a thought! if he is EW then maybe if you got him to bed earlier even if he wakes at 5.30 he will have slept a bit more than usual.id aim for 5.5 after his nap so maybe 6pm bed hoping he is asleep for 6.10/15? could that work?

[LizzieN]

Sweetie it's quite common for DS to take a while to settle down and go to sleep, it seems reasonably random....maybe when he is a bit more wound up or a bit more tired or a boring day (UT/US)....I wouldn't worry too much if he isn't falling asleep immediately as long as he doesn't get too upset.  The way I see it (especially when they get older) even if they don't sleep it's "down" time for both of you, low stimulation and restful and relaxing even if it's not as good as sleep.  I spend a LOT of time telling my step daughter that when she can't sleep because she gets so upset.

Hugs lovely

[MLK]

Had a phone message from the clinic today - they don't consult overseas and are not familiar with any sleep clinics in the UK. Sorry

[babybarr]

I'm going to aim for a slightly earlier bt as last night was awful and he still woke at 6am   I wouldn't have a problem with a 6am waking or even a 5.30am waking if he STTN!  If he was stuck at 5.30am at least there would be things I could try

Lan - thank you so much for taking the time to ask the sleep clinic.  I really appreciate it.  Shame they couldn't help but I do understand.  Thanks again.

[MLK]

No problem, just wish I could be of more help.

[babybarr]

Just your thoughts please...

We've been having awful nights as I said but I can't seem to make head or tail of bedtime...

Yesterday
Wake around 6am I guess
Nap 11.30-12.50
Bed 6.20pm (didn't quite make 6.15) asleep within 8/9mins - which is about normal
NW - around 2.30am for at least 1.5hrs
Today
Wake 6.30am
Nap 11.30am - 1pm
Bed 6.30 asleep 7.10pm - now I know it's not late but I can't understand why it's taking him ages to settle.  I wonder if DH is just hyping him up too much and then he's too wired but you know what dad's are like

I'm sorry if I sound like a broken record I could just really do with some hand holding atm as I'm struggling.

[babybarr]

Last night was the worst night we have had for a very long time

NW 11.15pm  ~1.5hrs
NW 2.45am
NW 5am
Awake around 6.30am

These NWs he's been really calling for me too which is NOT good. 

[MLK]

SO sorry it's still going on, esp as the NWs seem to be gettign longer. Pity he didn't do it when he had the tag on!

THis might sound crazy  -but when I have a bad ngiht I actually prefer to go back to sleep in the morning as I stay awake too late if I have a nap in afternoon - any chance he is the same?

[babybarr]

So perhaps put him to bed at say 9.30am or something - rather than 11.30am?

[MLK]

Does he show tired signs at any particular time? Else maybe around 10/10:30??

This mgiht totally backfire but at least that woudl be one mroe thing to rule out!

[babybarr]

He shows tired signs from the minute he gets up lol!

Yes he would probably go down at 10/10.30am and yes it's worth a shot. I'll give that a go, anything is worth a try!!

[MLK]

I know that feeling of wakign up from a bad night and just wanting to go back to bed... Give 10:30am a try? I won't say his nights couldn't get any worse because I don't want to jinx you!


What if he only sleeps for 40 mins?